My mother passed away a few days ago. She had been having trouble passing food, vomiting and not eating, so we took her to get an x-ray and they found out she had stage 4 colon cancer and that a growth was blocking her bowels. So they sent her to a better equipped hospital where they performed a colonoscopy. Then her bowel became perforated due to the colonoscopy.
At this point, the dr. gave us 2 options. Do the aggressive surgery or keep her on antibiotics and hope the perforation heals itself. My concern is that the Dr. gave us alot of reasons for not having the aggressive surgery; like a colorectomy (bag in side of stomach for waste), a tube in her neck, alot of other things which i forget. He also gave us an ultimatum that if we chose the antibiotics, choosing the surgery later would be meaningless.
I felt like the Dr. did not want to bother with the surgery and lead us to believe that the perforation can be healed on antibiotics alone. However I googled perforations and almost all the sites say a perforation requires surgery almost, without question, or it can lead to death. That is why we chose to go with the antibiotics and because, at first, my mother didn't want the surgery because of superstitious beliefs. However seeing her fight for her life and in pain made me wonder if we made the right decision. I know we signed the waiver before the colonoscopy, but my mother didn't die of cancer. She died of a perforated bowel.
Has this happened to anyone, where they felt like the Dr. lead them to take the less costly route and is there anything I can do?
I also later learned that about 25-30 years ago, my mother practiced geophagy (eating dirt) I know this could have been a reason for her blockages, but does anyone know what dirt may look like inside the body to an x-ray (ultra-sound?) Can it collect around the organs and appear as small black masses which a dr. could mistake for cancer?