Well, I've been doing alot of research on this problem, but when I saw this forum thought I would check it out and maybe someone out there has some good advice.
I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months and he is a great guy in all aspects, except our sex life is less than fulfulling. He just turned 50, is very active, not overweight, but he smokes and also smokes pot on occasion. He was a bull rider for about 3 years when he was younger. He told me up front that he had a groin injury due to nerve damage and scar tissue which make sex an almost impossiblility. He gets aroused, but things never progress to the point where we can actually finish the act. This leaves both of us feeling extremely frustrated. I have asked him to go talk to a doctor about this, but he says he doesn't want to go through surgery. I also think he feels embarrassed about discussing this, but if you can't talk to your doctor about a medical problem, who can you talk to? I tell him everything is alright as far as I was concerned, but it really isn't alright. I just don't want him feeling, depressed, inadequate and frustrated. I don't know how to get him to a doctor without nagging about it all the time, but this is really having an affect on our relationship. Maybe something can be done without surgery, but he needs to get some help somewhere.He can masturbate with no problem, but sex between us just isn't happening. We've tried 3 or 4 times, and I'm getting to the point where I just don't want to put him or me through the frustration anymore. Anybody got any words of wisdom for me? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. :confused: