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Five - Week Flu

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • February 13, 2007
  • 03:09 PM

A close friend of mine who works with hiv+ persons once said to me - years ago - that if your have a cold or flu that lasts for more than two weeks you are most likely hiv+

Now about 8 years later, in dec., 2006, i developed a cold. My nose ran for two weeks and subsided, but lingered. A t this time my family and myself where on holiday in a very cold mountainous resort. After we got back home the cold resurfaced this time knocking me out for a couple of days. Along with it were headaches, a sour throat and fever.

I noticed my husband was extremely anxious about my condition. He had a dry unyielding cough as well as diarrhea. He confessed to me that he had oral sex with a colleague about 8 months earlier and i was devastated. So I went to see our family doctor who said I'd be fine that it was the weather. He gave me antibiotics and after completing my dose the cold or flu went, but it had taken five weeks.

My husband says I should wait for his test results for hiv first, but he is taking too long, always coming up with all sorts of excuses. Now i want to go ahead and do my test without him knowing. You see I am writing from Africa and that believe me is an issue. Is a flu that lasts so long a sure symptom of hiv?

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  • Get tested, there is no way of knowing if it is flu or HIV, and since you have been in contact with possible exposure, just get tested and then you can rule it out. Please don't panic at this juncture. You sound like you have other things to worry about with your husband's infidelity. I am sorry you are going through this - is there a counselor or someone you can talk to?Best wishes.DOM
    acuann 3080 Replies
    • February 13, 2007
    • 04:03 PM
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  • Thanks for your concern. I am very worried about my kids and yes, him too. This is so unlike him and frankly i am not making excuses for him. We are a close-knit family and as such we both don't have many friends. Now when i think of it, he wouldn't be upset if I did a test behind his back, but I am afraid too. There are some counselors, but our society is quite primitive in its response to being hiv+I have been reading a lot of stuff on hiv on the internet, some really scary, others quite promising. I desperately want to live for my children's sake - they are 7, 5 & 1.6Thank you DOM.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • February 14, 2007
    • 02:47 PM
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