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Erection ups and downs

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • June 16, 2011
  • 00:49 AM

Are there any other men who are having this happen?

Hystory first. I am a heterosexual man in my late 40's. I am married & prior have been with a fair amount of ladies since my mid teens. My sexual desires have always been huge & from a very young age I thought perhaps more than average. I have been masturbating since age 9 & since that day, a few times every day. In my teens & 20's if I had a day alone it would be most of the day masturbating & ******g until soreness took over. Still to this day I love sex & if I don't have sex with my wife I will masturbate daily & always to ejaculation. My wife is fantastic & understands my sexual thirst & loves that I am this way. If not in the mood she wants to watch while I masturbate.

Lately I have noticed sometimes my erections are sometimes difficult to achieve or not very hard once up or I may lose it altogether, with my wife or masturbation. Other times I am hard as a rock like in my teens & for as long as I like. When I don't have problems I can have sex for a long time or masturbate for even an hour with a full erection. My orgasms are then still fantastic & I ejaculate normal amounts.

Why is this? I do have a fair amount of stress in life right now but that is my only negative. I am very fit, work out hard & eat very well. I drink very little & do not smoke now or ever. I believe stress & less sleep may be the reason. Please let me know if anybody has these temporary erection concerns. Thank you.

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  • Hey, I too have similar problems & I'm ony 27. I do think stress has alot to do with it.My job is very busy & I am away alot. My girlfriend is also very understandng & that certainly helps. I love sex but being very busy sure takes away from our time together. When I am away my evenings are less busy than when I'm at home so I have more time on my hands you might say. My GF & I have more video sex together via computer than when we are together. I never have a problem with a problem getting an erection while masturbating with her together via webcam. She is a very sexual lady & satisfies herself daily. She told me she sometimes masturbates watching lady ***n for a few hours & has what she calls "endless orgasms". I think this is great but I can't help thinking that my stress & temporary lack of erections when we are together may be hurting our sex life. I think perhaps I may feel stressed by the amount of masturbating she does. It is hard to compete with vibrators & *****s that never give up. Her orgasm she has while miles away in front of her webcam are huge. When we have sex together I am not able to make her orgasm so hard. On webcam when she is about to orgasm she will thrust wildly with her ****o or vibrator & she is very loud plus it lasts so long! I can't make her orgasm like that. I talked with a buddy who thinks I should ask her to masturbate before we have sex so she already has her orgasms. That to me is worse becasue then my would she need me. The only time she has had such wild orgasm with me is when we were vacationing a few months ago. Our reosrt was clothing optional & she spent most of her time nude. She has a very fit body so most men had thier eyes glued to her every move. The first night we were there we had great long sex & she had many orgasms with me. She told me she was extremely turned on to be with me, nude & with so many men watching her. While on that same vacation she also admitted to me that she has masturbated together with a long time girlfriend of hers many times. I was shocked & asked if that was all they have done. She said yes & that they just enjoy watching each other orgasm & it's a special thing for them. So, is my problem with myself or my very orgasmic self pleasuring girlfriend? Are there any other men who are having this happen? Hystory first. I am a heterosexual man in my late 40's. I am married & prior have been with a fair amount of ladies since my mid teens. My sexual desires have always been huge & from a very young age I thought perhaps more than average. I have been masturbating since age 9 & since that day, a few times every day. In my teens & 20's if I had a day alone it would be most of the day masturbating & ******g until soreness took over. Still to this day I love sex & if I don't have sex with my wife I will masturbate daily & always to ejaculation. My wife is fantastic & understands my sexual thirst & loves that I am this way. If not in the mood she wants to watch while I masturbate.Lately I have noticed sometimes my erections are sometimes difficult to achieve or not very hard once up or I may lose it altogether, with my wife or masturbation. Other times I am hard as a rock like in my teens & for as long as I like. When I don't have problems I can have sex for a long time or masturbate for even an hour with a full erection. My orgasms are then still fantastic & I ejaculate normal amounts. Why is this? I do have a fair amount of stress in life right now but that is my only negative. I am very fit, work out hard & eat very well. I drink very little & do not smoke now or ever. I believe stress & less sleep may be the reason. Please let me know if anybody has these temporary erection concerns. Thank you.
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  • Hi gentlemen, take this advice from a womans point of view. Don't worry so much about being hard as a rock all the time. We really don't need hours of you men inside us. Sex is great & I for one enjoy it myself as much as possible but we can have breaks or just take care of our own orgasms. We like the affection as much as the sex itself. When I feel real hot & need sexual release I preffer to take care of my own orgasms. Then I get exactly what I need & for as long as I want. It has nothing to do with men, just release & orgasms. I know other women who feel the same. About ten years ago in high school I had three girlfriends that were on my track team. Because we trained long hours after school sometimes we would make up for it on weekends doing homework. Once we were all together at my house in the back yard. It was hot & I got some beer from my Dad's garage cooler. After some time our work turned into truth or dare. Long story short the topic turned to sex. After hearing about one girl & her fingering, one stripping naked for us & me telling how I had masturbated with a boy from summer camp years before we were quite excited. After Liz left for home the other two & I went to my room got naked & masturbated for about an hour. The dare was put out by me to see who could have the most orgasms. The point I am trying to make is that women are very sexual in nature & when it comes to just getting off we can take care of ourselves. The sex with men is very different & special but for just getting off masturbation is fantastic. So hang loose & don't worry so much. Shelly.
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