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  • Posted By: winnie
  • March 29, 2008
  • 02:11 AM

After about 5 years of wrong diagnosis,today I finally found out what was wrong with me,for 2 years I got every drug for yeast infection which I never had,a constant itch and discharge that wouldn't go away no matter which medication I took.
Another year of them trying aid test and chlamydia,the figured it was chlamydia,I dealt with that for 3 more years,I saw 4 of the best doctors in the island and they all said my hormornes were unbalance,I thought that was a bunch of bull(I'm 36) and everything else about me was fine except of this itch,discharge that looked like a lsight yeast infection and last but not by no means least,the occassional swollen ovaries.
Finally 2 weeks ago I go to a new doctor who,sends me for a herpes test and he calls me this evening and tells me I have herpes type 2.
I was lost for words,what do I do now,is this something that I'll die in a few years,I know nothing about this.
This is the first time in my life that I'll be keeping a secret from my daughter(I'm a single mom with a great 16yr old),I've decided not to tell her or anyone else.
Can I have anymore children if I wanted to?
Is this something that can be controlled so I can finally be free of this itch.
Goodness what about the my previous boyfriend from a couple of years ago,I'm too embarrassed to call him,what about the new boyfriend I have who performs oral sex on me,does he now have it?
My mind is going constantly,what am I suppose to do now,I am afraid that I won't see any grandchildren,I won't tell my friends,but can they drink from the same glass I've used?
Is there someone who can help me with of these questions,anyone had such an experience,I'm usually a very strong person but today I'm afraid and feel like there is no one to talk to,it feels like I'm on my own,like I can tell no one this deep dark secret.
HELP

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  • herpes is contagious - don't share cutlry, drinking glasses, towels, anything (unless they've been cleaned first) you may also get sores in the mouth or on your private region -- some people do, but some people don't. you may be one of the lucky ones who don't. you're not gonna die from it, it can't be cured, but there are medications to help prevent outbreaks. chances are your BF has it, but it's not always the case.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies Flag this Response
  • You have an obligation to inform anyone you get naked with of your condition. The old boyfriend should get a blood test to find out if he has it so he doesn't pass it on to some innocent victim--or he gave it to you and knows it already. He may be symptom-less. Join Antopia for support. It won't kill you. Your daughter does not need to know. You may want to clean off the toilet seat with clorox wipes since you seem to have an on-going infection with it just to play it safe. http://www.herpes.com/genitalinfo.shtml http://www.mpwh.net/
    Monsterlove 2921 Replies Flag this Response
  • I have type 2 herpes so I only get affected from waist down.
    winnie 4 Replies Flag this Response
  • You are contagious before you break out and while shedding, which has no symptoms, in addition to any visible sores...so, just pretend you are always contagious with your mates. Have your boyfriend get a blood test. He may have it already and not know; if he doesn't have it, he'll want to take strong precautions. Lots of guys have it and don't know it, too. The stats are one in four women have it and of those, only one in three have the correct diagnosis.You can have more children but they will have a "nosode/miasm" version of the disease and you will, most likely, have to have a c-section to protect them passing through the birth canal with a possible sore there.
    Monsterlove 2921 Replies Flag this Response
  • I wondered about having more children as I only one and really wanted to try again,did speak to my doctor about it.I don't break out in visible out breaks such as sores on my face as that is type 1 herpes,my doctor say I can only spead it through sex.I having been having a very hard time telling my other half,but have decided to do so tonight,thanks for the advice.
    winnie 4 Replies Flag this Response
  • Hi winnie,I don't know how much information you were given by your doctor. Here is a link with lots of information for you to read.http://www.herpes.com/hsv1-2.htmlI know it will be difficult for you to tell your boyfriend, but you must. He should be tested, there is always a chance he has not been affected. And the same for any previous boyfriends. You got this from someone and they may or may not know they have it.This is not the end of the world, but you should be using more caution in your sex practices. There are even more dangerous things out there. Things that none of us want. Be brave. :)
    Beth56 272 Replies Flag this Response
  • I wondered about having more children as I only one and really wanted to try again,did speak to my doctor about it.I don't break out in visible out breaks such as sores on my face as that is type 1 herpes,my doctor say I can only spead it through sex.I having been having a very hard time telling my other half,but have decided to do so tonight,thanks for the advice. I don't know why your are waiting; he could have given it to you so don't feel so upset about telling him, or if he doesn't have it, you could give it to him....when he gets his blood test (and you need to check yours)...the blood work comes back with herpes antibodies IgM or IgG...get a copy of your report and see if you are IgM or IgG. IgG means that you've had it for a while and it seems like you have and IgM means that you just got it, in most cases. If his blood work comes back IgG, that means that he could have given it to you if you are IgM. It just makes a psychological impact knowing who had what first.
    Monsterlove 2921 Replies Flag this Response
  • Hi Winnie, It's not a matter of having to tell everybody you get naked with, just those that you have skin to skin contact with in the afflicted areas. So you can go to a nudist club without any problem. Unfortunately herpes 1 and 2 can genuinely happen about anywhere. There are plenty of kids that have "diaper area herpes" type 1, from people changing their diapers after touching their coldsores. Arginine, an amino acid also triggers herpes outbreaks. Herpes generally is not continuous. If you have a continuous problem perhaps the herpes blisters have gotten infected with something else. Your life isn't over so don't panic. How long has this been doing on? You must have caught it from somebody, about a week before your first outbreak. People can have oral herpes 1 or 2 and pubic area herpes 1 or 2. It can be spread by simple skin contact, no sex needed. Good luck.
    Freddd 3576 Replies Flag this Response
  • Thanks so much I was so worried that I would have to tell anyone I have sex with in the future.Can give it to someone through oral sex?
    winnie 4 Replies Flag this Response
  • Thanks so much I was so worried that I would have to tell anyone I have sex with in the future.Can give it to someone through oral sex? You have a moral obligation to inform your sexual partners and let them decide if they want to have oral sex or genital sex or sex at all. You can pass it without any symptoms. It's upsetting to inform your partners, but if you don't inform them and they do get it, they can sue you. A baseball player was sued and lost one million for passing it and not informing someone he had sex with.
    Monsterlove 2921 Replies Flag this Response
  • i have genital herpes too, I have had it since I was 17 yrs old (maybe before) but it isnt at all something to panic over. 25% of the population (one in four) has it. In Australia where i live, it's viewed as so common that many doctors will not even bother telling one one has it. Due to that i havent even bothered telling many of my serious sexual partners (eg ones i plan to stay with) unless Im actually showing signs of it (but maybe it's seen differently where you live?). Something like a quarter to a half of those with herpes..dont even know they have it anyway. (if you dont want to catch something, one should be taking precautions anyway!) I love receiving oral sex and have never given any other herpes by that. The only problem my herpes has caused (but this isnt common thou a known issue)..is my daughter ended up vocal papillomas from catching the herpes from me and it breaking out on her vocal cords and hence had to have surgery to keep her airway open every few mths for years. (This problem is hard to fix.. she was lucky her voice wasnt permanently damaged and that she can speak) and you will, most likely, have to have a c-section to protect them passing through the birth canal with a possible sore there. Doctors knew i had herpes severely... it could be clearly seen (I had it so bad that at the beggining of my pregnancy (which caused a massive outbreak of it) that they were speaking of abortion, as they wanted to treat me as they were scared it would go to cancer due to it was going into my cervix etc). I didnt get treatment as I refused an abortion.... but their was never any talk about me not having a natural birth, so I had my daughter naturally (and that is what caused her issue). After the pregnancy.. I went asymptomatic (no visable signs of it again).. to which as far as i know, I have remained since. (probably best thou to tell sexual partners if you dont want to go bothering anyone.. but make sure you also tell them just how common it is.. it just isnt unusual at all to have it. Most probably have already slept with someone with it anyway. I see it not much different to having something like the cold sore herpes type.. thou of cause that cant go into life threatening issue..eg some genital herpes forms can put one at higher cancer risk). I dont know if you realise this.. but there is also a couple of vaccinations out now (well in Australia anyway)..which help prevent the cancer form of the genital herpes virus, they vaccinate against genital herpes (just the girls are given the vaccine..they aint concerned enough to be giving it to males). They are now giving them to all school girls of sexual age where I live. So I guess if you are too worried.. any future partners you could have them vacccinated from it. (thou i dont know if doctors would even bother??)
    taniaaust1 2267 Replies Flag this Response
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  • Hello,Sorry your little one had so much trouble; it surely is sad that they didn't do a c-section and save her from that pain. Well, you trusted that they knew what they were doing.I don't believe they are vaccinating yet against herpes; you may mean HPV. Some of the girls in your country have had some very bad reactions to the vaccine, too.The headlines were 1 in 4 New Yorkers have herpes; the problem is that about half of them don't know that they have it. In our country, people consider it a form of assault to knowingly give a life long virus to an unsuspecting person with full knowledge. I know people don't want to tell a new partner about their status; that is how it spreads--especially during the viral shedding when you have no symptoms at all. It's always best to inform the guys and let them make the decision to expose themselves to the virus. Half of the guys won't care but there are some who would not knowingly go for it. They will respect your honesty and may just end up making sure they use protection. You will gain their trust and friendship.
    Monsterlove 2921 Replies Flag this Response
  • Hello,Sorry your little one had so much trouble; it surely is sad that they didn't do a c-section and save her from that pain. Well, you trusted that they knew what they were doing.I don't believe they are vaccinating yet against herpes; you may mean HPV. Some of the girls in your country have had some very bad reactions to the vaccine, too.The headlines were 1 in 4 New Yorkers have herpes; the problem is that about half of them don't know that they have it. In our country, people consider it a form of assault to knowingly give a life long virus to an unsuspecting person with full knowledge. I know people don't want to tell a new partner about their status; that is how it spreads--especially during the viral shedding when you have no symptoms at all. It's always best to inform the guys and let them make the decision to expose themselves to the virus. Half of the guys won't care but there are some who would not knowingly go for it. They will respect your honesty and may just end up making sure they use protection. You will gain their trust and friendship. Thanks for the correction Monsterlove... seems i got the HPV and HSV confused cause of similar statistics etc. (my head is currently a confused mess) winnie.. ignore my other post.................... Monsterlove.. after your post i actually went and researched the prevelance of transmission of the HPV to my child and her throat.. Although genital HPV types are sometimes transmitted from mother to child during birth, the appearance of genital HPV-related diseases in newborns is rare. Perinatal transmission of HPV types 6 and 11 can result in the development of juvenile-onset recurrent respiratory papillomatosis (JORRP). JORRP is very rare, with rates of about 2 cases per 100,000 children in the United States. Although JORRP rates are substantially higher if a woman presents with genital warts at the time of giving birth, the risk of JORRP in such cases is still less than 1%. OHHH.. with a rate of only 2 cases per 100 000 children.. i must be so so unlucky that my child had that problem :( . (my other child had another extremely rare serious condition too so was born with birth defects etc "caudal regression syndrome which only occurs in 1 in 25 000 live births). Some times i wonder just how someone can be so unlucky!. And I just found out that it could of caused her cancer too.. but hospital never told me that. Lately her voice has gone all "husky" again (that's the only sign we've got if they back growing on her vocal cords etc without doctors putting her under and having a good look down her throat)... if it's still like that the next time I see her (she's 20 yrs now).. i'll make sure she goes to doctor and has her throat rechecked in case issue has come back.
    taniaaust1 2267 Replies Flag this Response
  • Has anyone ever heard of Valrex and if you have,does it work?
    winnie 4 Replies Flag this Response
  • herpes is contagious - don't share cutlry, drinking glasses, towels, anything (unless they've been cleaned first) you may also get sores in the mouth or on your private region -- some people do, but some people don't. you may be one of the lucky ones who don't. you're not gonna die from it, it can't be cured, but there are medications to help prevent outbreaks. chances are your BF has it, but it's not always the case. YOU ARE SO MISTAKEN:eek:
    gluck7104 8 Replies Flag this Response
  • Winnie- It's Valtrex: Drug is an antiviral used in the treatment of HSV 1/2 outbreaks. The drug can be used in several ways depending on your history. It is taken at the first sign of an outbreak (tingling/change in sensation) and will either prevent the outbreak or curtail duration of the outbreak. You might take it for longer periods, but your physician will direct this action. To Gluck... You are SO right- some of these posts...
    fewd4thought 126 Replies Flag this Response
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