When my second child was born, I tried to give birth w/o an epidural. I had not used one for my first child either.
It was obviously painful, but I was doing ok UNTIL the nurse decided it was time for me to push.
Now this was my second child and so you would think I knew a bit about childbirth.
She told me to push, and I told her it wasn't time yet, I had no urge to push. She insisted "every delivery is different" and that I was fully dilated.
So I pushed. It hurt to push. I told her "something is wrong, it hurts to push and it didn't hurt with my first child". Again with the "every delivery is different" line.
I'm not a very forceful person, and two refusals was all I had in me. So I took her word at it and kept pushing.
All this time, the Dr. is not even in the room and has never examined me!:mad:
So I'm pushing and she tries to stretch my cervix (which isn't fully dilated after all) over the baby's head! Doesn't work, and it swells shut! So now I'm in labor with a cervix that is swollen shut. I had the epidural and after a couple of hours the swelling went down and I delivered.
So that's my story - the moral is, LISTEN TO YOUR BODY! If I had been more forceful in refusing her, I could have saved myself a lot of pain.