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Virgin Worries

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  • Posted By: YouthWastedOnYoung
  • June 2, 2009
  • 04:11 AM

Hi, I've been looking through the internet for help with a problem I'm having, and this seemed like a good place.

My girlfriend and I recently had sex for our first times (we were both virgins). In the past (with other girlfriends and with this one) I get hard while making out or anything like that, but I normally am not that turned on by handjobs or *******s (keep in mind, these are virgin-level-experience of girls and I doubt they were very good, but still, shouldn't there be somethign!?) Actually I'm more aroused from just making out but once my penis is actually taken out, I'm just not any more... And now this is causing problems with having sex. I need to know how to overcome this problem. I'm not really uncomfortable with the girl, which is why I wasn't sure if this is just the standard first-time-worries or not. Oh, also, here's something which may or may not be relevant: I'm not really comfortable taking a piss in a urinal when other people are there. I'm not sure how to fix this. Can somebody at least point me in the right direction??? Thanks a lot in advance!

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  • I think more or less you are like me and that all men when they start having sex for the first time have to go through this problem.It's like when learning to ride a bike you have to start with training wheels and when the concept of sex comes up this is just what you have to go through.Perhaps you're not mature enough yet if you know what I mean. I am 18 and I get these kind of problems too, however if the girl is experienced and good I am greatly turned on by oral and hand jobs. I think that is our only difference.I'm starting to realise that this is just perhaps a phase that EVERYONE goes through and only time can cure it. Unless you want to take Viagra or other sorts of medication which in turn would make me feel even worse about my situation having to resort to drugs at my healthy stage in life.All I can say is good luck and perhaps if you masturbate often, stop doing that because I have heard that people who masturbate lots have huge problems sustaining an erection while having sex and just before sex. So I'm going to stop that too. Best of luck though.
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