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Low Sex Drive

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • January 3, 2008
  • 04:52 PM

My boyfriend (of 6 months) and I have a great relationship. I feel like we are the perfect couple, always together, constant affection, pure bliss, except for our sex life, or lack thereof. In the beginning it was constant, now I’m lucky to get it twice a week. Now I could understand this if the relationship was older or ***l, we were older. We’re both in our early twenties. So for me, sex everyday is a bit more reasonable. Its not like we don’t have the time or the place.

We have talked about it and he claims that I make it “too easy”. That before I got my own place (we don’t live together) it was harder to get it, so he wanted it more. But now there are also headache excuses, it’s too cold, I’m to tired, anything and everything he can think of. I thought maybe it was me, but he claims that I’m the best he’s ever had and the only one he wants. That marriage is his top priority with me. I’m very sexually open, to anything actually, so I don’t think boredom is the issue either. Plus, I’m always the one to do the work. He never has to and never chooses to.

Brief history on him, he use to be into drugs (heavy ones not just pot) as well as steroids. He has since stopped those, but any opinions on those being a factor of his low sex drive?

I’ve tried denying him sex, but I fail at it. I have a very high sex drive and feel dumb for telling him no when he wants it when I want it to. I don’t know what else to do.

If it’s me, if it’s him…or god forbid if it’s someone else…..

Any suggestions?

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  • I think that the drugs could have caused the problem cause my brother used to be in very heavy drugs and his GF used to always talk to me about everything including the sex life lol but any ways he never wanted sex is he still doing any drugs or maybe he could be doing them behind your back but i do know for sure that the drugs could have done this.was he into the sex in the begining of your relationship?I would get him to go to the doctor cause sexual problems (such as lack of interest in it) can mean that something else is wrong with him. He should get some blood tests to see if there is a hormonal imballence or maybe he could have depression what drugs was he doing?
    rachel125 112 Replies
    • January 10, 2008
    • 10:28 PM
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  • Im pretty positive hes not doing drugs. Its not something that he ever hid from me when he did them at the start of our realtionship. He personaly choose to stop doing them, I had nothing to do with it. So, I dont think he would hide it.The ones im positive he used were:SteriodsCocoainePotHeroinAcidVarious PrescriptionsExctasyAnd yes, he was VERY into sex at the start. I was actually getting annoyed with how much he wanted it. And Like I said, now im the one begging. There is just always an excuse on why he doesnt want too. But he has no issues masturbating it seems.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • January 14, 2008
    • 04:45 PM
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  • I know that steroids can cause ongoing sexual problems and maybe his sex drive was just up at the begining of your relationship because thats when he quit all the drugs.have you talked to him about going to see a physician?
    rachel125 112 Replies
    • January 15, 2008
    • 04:03 PM
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  • u may have resolved ur prob by now... maybe u can help me!in the first yr it was great, now in the 3rd going on 4 yrs, its once a month, if i'm lucky. he says sex in general just dosnt excite him. .....
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