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Loosing erection during intercourse.

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • June 4, 2011
  • 10:42 AM

I've seen a lot of threads about similar things but I wanted to put my story as someone may be able to recommend something specific because of something I say, so..

I'm 20 years old and I have trouble maintaining an erection during intercourse. Masturbating and foreplay with my girlfriend is fine. I can get really, really hard, really, really fast during that.

Today I had sex with my new girlfriend for the first time, it wasn't either of our actual firsts, just together and it happened. I lost it, pulled out, we made out and I got hard again and tried again and when I felt myself getting soft I just rushed so I could come.

I'm fairly certain this is a mental thing, I am constantly worrying about it happening and feeling myself all the time when we're making out to make sure it's still hard.

I am thinking about cutting out all masturbation, cold turkey, no more so that when we're doing stuff, I really get going. Has anyone had any experience with cutting it out completely? If it is the masturbation, how long would I expect to wait to see improvements?

If it's any help, it was every day and night I would do it.

This also happened with my ex girlfriend. She would never understand and would say stuff about it. My new girlfriend is understanding. I'm thinking it could go back to my ex having a problem with it. I don't know.

Help, please D;;

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  • ED problems can be due to many reason physical or mental stress.. or even it can be because of performance anxiety... don't worry and try again.. if you still have problem with it.. you can use medicine for it..
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  • Hey, first if you are in good health, stop worrying. We all go through this now & then. As for masturbating I my self have been doing since I was a kid every day 2 to 5 times untill into my married life & I stll do it 4 to 5 times a week plus sex of course. Try cutting back masturbating to once every other day, or think or how often you ejaculate. Try for now to ejaculate every other day either with your girl or by yourself. Don't cut masturbation from your life. We all need it & regular ejaculation is healthy. I tried stopping for one week at age 19 just to see what it would be like. Sexual thoughts were there even more & it is very difficult to make it through the day after about the third. By weeks end I could feel my penis having that same feeling you have while masturbating only it was almost all day. It felt nice but i needed to **m badly. On the night I ended my week I only stroked my penis for about 10 seconds before I came. The pre-feeling was good but the orgasm was like I did not quite finish & very disapointing. I was still ****y so about 5 or 10 minutes later I masturbated again & the 2nd orgasm was huge. I ended up cuming about 8 times that night before I felt satisfied so I think stopping is a very bad choice. So try these things out. When masturbating make sure you use a good lube. This creates less frictiion on the penis & also feels great. Also limit your time masturbating. I know watching good ***n can keep me stroking for sometimes 2 hours & the orgasm after is absolutely fantastic but then the penis can be a bit tired after. If you do like good ***n while masturbating then keep going for about the same length of time you would like to have sex for. Once you reach that time edge to orgasm & then stop just before you are about to **m. Do this about 5 to 10 times & if you do go too far just enjoy the orgasm. Also keeps thing sexy always. You will benefit from this for sure. When you are together with your GF try to keep little sexy ideas in mind & share them with her. Take her to dinner. While waiting to be seated tell her how great her breasts are & how they are exactly what you have always liked be they large medium or small. They are all great so make them your favorite. While seated enjoying a glass of wine tell her how distracting she is for your eyes & how pretty she is. If she is showing a little tit cleavage compliment that & you will see more in the future. Ask her to bring you back her panties when she goes to the restroom then keep them in your pocket. She will be getting ****y at this time & once you are alone together she will be ready for anything. Ask her if she preffers shaven genitals for her or you? Tell her that you would love for her to shave her ****y & keep it that way. You yourself can also keep yourself clean shaven. Most women love oral sex less the hair. Your GF can also help. Let her know that erection loss it is a temporary nervouse type thing for guys & that your thinking about it makes it worse. Perhaps she will enjoy doing something for you that will help stimulate your mind & get it off your penis. Ask her do do things like a strip dance for you. Perhaps she will masturbate for you. Watching her please herself will also give you ideas of where & just how she likes to be touched. Nothing is better than watching a woman orgasm the best way she knows how. If she is shy buy a few vibrating toys & bring them home. I made a sex game for my wife & I. All you need is card paper a pen & dice. Once she does this as a game she will be more comfortable. I like to have spicy cards that reads things like "you must orgasm 3 times with the rabbit vibrator while your man watches" or "orgasm using just your fingers while never loosing eye contact with your man until your orgasm is finished". Have her grade her own orgasm from 1 to 10. As she is playing with herslef have her count out to you as she gets closer to orgasm, 10 being her orgasm. You will need the same amount of cards for yourself. Just use your imagination & you will be amazed at how much you think of. The cards should have fun things that don't all include orgasm. It could be 30 seconds of oral sex for either one or 69 for both. Your GF is lucky enough to have endless orgasms but for you it's not so easy. Try cards for yourself that will read things like "lube your penis / sit across from your lady & masturbate / you are not allowed to **m unless your lady says she wants you to" This gives her the option of ending your game while you get to show her how long you can keep your penis hard & you also get to enjoy a great orgasm while she watches. Once you are both comfortable with these things try taking pictures or video. You can then erase all of it right away so she is comfortable. She will get to see what she looks like having an orgasm & it's really fun at the same time. Just remember that if things go sour in the future nobody wants the other to have pictures or video like that. Erasing is best. Ok, that is a ton of info but I think you get what I mean. Keep things sexy with your GF, she will be ****y & this will help you both for great sex & keep your penis harder than ever. Take it form a man who has done all of the above & very much more. It alls works & you both will be very happy together & sexually satisfied but always wanting more. Have fun & repost once you have tried. Frank.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • August 13, 2011
    • 00:03 PM
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    • August 24, 2011
    • 00:44 PM
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