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I can't come during sex but I can when I masturbate?

Posted In: Male sexual conditions 7 Replies
  • Posted By: cannondale
  • February 28, 2010
  • 08:41 PM

Hi and thanks for taking the time to read my query,

Ive been seeing my new girlfriend for about 6 weeks now, we are both 31 and perfectly healthy, we had our 1st sexual experience together 2 weeks ago and everything was fantastic!!!

We had sex again this morning and it was heavenly, we both really enjoyed it, she came twice but I didnt come at all no matter how hard I tried :(

We communicate really well with each other before/during/after sex so we can give each other as much pleasure as possible but this problem is beginning to get on my nerves.

No matter how much effort I put in I can't come during sex with her.

The 1st weekend we spent together I wasnt overly concerned because in the past during previous sexual encounters with other women Ive not 'produced the goods' every single time, I have ejaculated maybe 80% - 90% of the time.

We have tried several positions but nothing seems to work for me although I want too sooooooooo much because I find her extremely attractive :(

Strange fact: While on my own I can only come when I lock my legs straight and masturbate at a ferious pace.

After the sexy time I demonstrated it to her just to prove I could come and she was glad to know I can produce :)

Do I have a prostate problem?

Is it just a faze?

Any help would be much appreciated :)

Thanks

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  • I have the same "strange fact" I too can only **m "While on my own I can only come when I lock my legs straight and masturbate at a ferious pace." I also can't **m if I use lube I don't get enough friction. I am a vergin so I don't know if I can **m with a woman.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies Flag this Response
  • Hi and thanks for taking the time to read my query, Ive been seeing my new girlfriend for about 6 weeks now, we are both 31 and perfectly healthy, we had our 1st sexual experience together 2 weeks ago and everything was fantastic!!! We had sex again this morning and it was heavenly, we both really enjoyed it, she came twice but I didnt come at all no matter how hard I tried :( We communicate really well with each other before/during/after sex so we can give each other as much pleasure as possible but this problem is beginning to get on my nerves. No matter how much effort I put in I can't come during sex with her. The 1st weekend we spent together I wasnt overly concerned because in the past during previous sexual encounters with other women Ive not 'produced the goods' every single time, I have ejaculated maybe 80% - 90% of the time. We have tried several positions but nothing seems to work for me although I want too sooooooooo much because I find her extremely attractive :( Strange fact: While on my own I can only come when I lock my legs straight and masturbate at a ferious pace. After the sexy time I demonstrated it to her just to prove I could come and she was glad to know I can produce :) Do I have a prostate problem? Is it just a faze? Any help would be much appreciated :) Thanks HI Cannondale, I would suggest that if you were to stop masturbating for a few weeks, the sensitivity of your penis would increase to the point that you would cease having the problem. The book ESO - Extended sexual orgasm could be very educational for you and the methods taught there could help you re-educate yourself and your penile responses. Most guys teach themselves the wrong things during masturbation.
    Freddd 3576 Replies
    • September 27, 2010
    • 05:29 AM
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  • Why cannot you try some exercises which do help to solve your kind of problem. I have heard this but quite cannot recollect it to refer it to you.;)
    anthonynelson 6 Replies
    • September 29, 2010
    • 08:56 AM
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  • I think you have no prostate problems... Probably it is a psychological problem. Did you spend much time practicing or thinking about prolonged sex? Try to relax, let's everything flow as it is must flow :) Don't think about your problem, just be free and enjoy lovemaking moments.
    diagen 1 Replies Flag this Response
  • A buddy of mine had the same problem. It went away for him, but he didn't know why. First and foremost, go see a doctor. I know you don't want to, nobody does, but that's the best place to start. My advice in the interim would be to try and masturbate without locking your legs, even if you don't orgasm. Just do it for a little bit.I have the same problem when standing. For wahtever reason if I'm in a standing position having sex or masturbating, I have to be on my tippy toes...not sure why, but I'll never **m if Im not. Are body parts are interrelated more than you think. Also, the next time you engage in intercourse, take a mental note of what your feeling. Are there moments of no feeling? Or a weaker feeling? Is your penis not getting 100 per cent of good contact the entire time? You'll get thru this, I'm sure. But I'd start with some of these first.
    misterzero 5 Replies Flag this Response
  • I had this problem for awhile too. Masturbation always worked but intercourse didn't. I found this program that helped, maybe it can help you!
    db81000 1 Replies Flag this Response
  • I've been seeing this girl for a while last week we started having sex and evening usually I can come before her was over years that last headset so I haven't come single time with her but today I masturbated ANS media came within minutes so I don't know any solution since problem?
    Anonymous 1 Replies Flag this Response
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