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Embedded penis

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  • Posted By: amicrazy
  • July 31, 2008
  • 04:59 PM

I don't know if this is the right place to ask this or not...but here goes. I have an 11 year old son that has an embedded penis. He has been like this since after his circumcision when he was born. I thought because he was a chubby baby that it would go away, but after he turned 8, I took him to the doctor for it. The doctor told me that he thought that my son had a testicle that hadn't descended, so referred him to a urologist. The urologist took one look and said that my son did not have a bad testicle and he was very embedded, but that when the skin was all pulled back his penis was normal for an 8 year old. I have since taken him to another doctor that tells me that his penis is normal, but just embedded because he's chubby. I don't make a big deal of it because I don't want my son to be embarassed. When he stands up, he looks like a little girl. You can't see anything of the penis except an opening on his "fat pad". He doesn't have any physical problems as of now, but I worry that he will be made fun of by future girlfriends/wife or sports mates if this problem doesn't correct itself. Is this something that I should have corrected surgically or let nature take it's course and correct itself?

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  • The one who seems to have the problem here is the mother who says her naked 11-year-old son looks like a girl. You need to get a hold of yourself for the psychological damage you may have inadvertently caused your son. You have brought too much attention to his situation even after being told by two doctors that he was fine. Why are you fixating on your son's penis? :eek: You'll give him a complex and create life-long problems with his sex life... I would be more concerned over his weight and possiibilities of future diabetes. I would focus on correcting his diet and never bring up his penis to him again. Maybe if his diet (along with physcial activity) was correctly, he would look more normal, but I don't think you should be looking ever again. If he wants surgery when he's an adult, he can decide on it.
    Monsterlove 2921 Replies Flag this Response
  • First of all...I would NEVER say anything about how or what I feel to my son. My son does not have ANY "psychological damage" because of anything I have ever said to him. I do not ever bring this up to him. I thought this was a forum where I could ask opinions and seek advice...not be judged. You took something out of context and made it seem like I was some kind of pervert or something for being concerned about my child!!! I think you should take the advice of my grandmother..."If you don't have anything nice to say...DON'T SAY IT". I don't sit and dwell on my son's penis. As a mother, I have every right to notice everything that goes on with my child I have noticed this when he gets out of the bath tub. As for his diet...he is extremely active in sports and does eat correctly. He just maintains weight for some reason or other we haven't figured out yet. That is also a topic that I do not bring up to my son.
    amicrazy 7 Replies Flag this Response
  • Shame on the one who criticized the mother for being concerned about her sons sexual well being. I too am a concerned mother about one of my sons relating to his penis and the main reason is this: Men, young and old, seem to base a great deal of their self esteem on their sexual organ (not unlike girls and being slim and popular) so it is a mothers JOB to look out for her childrens well being in all aspects. If she is doing it discreetly, speaking with the doctor privately and combining these exams with other 'regular' physical exams, the kid doesn't even know what the focus of the exam is. BTW, my sons circumcision was botched and a large area of the foreskin was left attached and would pull very tight when he had an erection. THIS I noticed in the mornings when he had to urinate, when getting out of the tub etc. NOT because I was staring at his penis! You know what my doctor told me? "Too bad you waited so long, we could have corrected this when he was one or two and he would have never known any different, he wouldn't even remember the minor surgery" So basically what I am saying is continue to seek advice as discreetly as humanly possible. Don't let anyone make you feel wrong for seeking out advice for something, that if left unaddressed could possibly become a much bigger issue. If he finds out, he may be embarassed now, but when he is in love and wanting to marry the girl of his dreams he will silently thank his mother for noticing.
    dutchharbor10 2 Replies
    • October 7, 2008
    • 09:54 AM
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  • Mom, Quit worrying. I have one of those myself and I am 50. No, its the right size when its erect, no problems. There are times when is hides..LOL!!! now. The good part. It kept me from getting hurt and I am a muscular bruiser who got banged up pretty bad for one reason or another. When I spilled a hot beverage on my groin, the fat pad burned, my penis did not. I have been with my wife for 30 years, and before her, I made plenty of women happy!. Ok, now here is the bad part. Its the times. Back in the day, women were not as informed and fixated. Now they are just like guys. If someone loves your boy, they will only know it hides, AFTER THEY DO IT!. By then, she will think its funny!. I know!. By the way, my 10 year old is built the same way. He says dad, we are fine arent we!...yes we are little bro, yes we are.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • October 9, 2008
    • 04:28 AM
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  • Hi, I've only just stumbled across this site and saw your message. "AREUCRAZY...not at all!! I am in the same position as yourself. My son is almost 11 and since birth has suffered from an embedded penis. We wanted him circumcised at birth but he did not have enough foreskin. At the age of 4 we took him to a Urologist and he was circumcised because of constant infections and scarring. The urologist explained to me that he had an embeeded penis as there was not enough foreskin to cover the shaft of his penis (which is about normal size). The Urologist said that to just see how things worked out over the next few years and that they may do something when his a teenager if it hasn't corrected itself naturally. Well nothing has changed in 6 years. In fact, I think it may have even gotten worse. His testicles are high, his penis is still embedded (looks like a belly button) and when he has an erection it hurts as the skin is so tight it pulls. He is a solid build, tall, plays alot of sport, is quite fit but is not overweight (although he was a large baby 4.64kgs). I am also worried as I don't want him to be teased when he gets older as kids can be so cruel. Also, I want to be sure that everything will be ok for him later on in life. Thank you JayZ for your repsonse but I would like to know whether you were teased and if it caused problems for you? Also I am curious AMICRAZY as to whether you have followed through with your concerns and if so, if you has any action been taken eg corrective surgery, etc for your son. Thanking you ...PS Monsterlove..no need for you to reply..we certainly don't need to hear your negative warped views for a second time!
    Anonymous 42789 Replies Flag this Response
  • Brutal response. Talk about giving someone psychological damage. Take ineventory of yourself.The one who seems to have the problem here is the mother who says her naked 11-year-old son looks like a girl. You need to get a hold of yourself for the psychological damage you may have inadvertently caused your son. You have brought too much attention to his situation even after being told by two doctors that he was fine. Why are you fixating on your son's penis? :eek: You'll give him a complex and create life-long problems with his sex life... I would be more concerned over his weight and possiibilities of future diabetes. I would focus on correcting his diet and never bring up his penis to him again. Maybe if his diet (along with physcial activity) was correctly, he would look more normal, but I don't think you should be looking ever again. If he wants surgery when he's an adult, he can decide on it.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • October 2, 2009
    • 04:11 PM
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  • It really is a two sided sword here.I can see both sides of view but I've also been that son with an over caring mother. It made me very paranoid. I didn't have my first GF until I was 23 and was basically very highly strung and stressed. I now look back and wish that my mum had been very different and just let my life progress normally without her paranoia that something was wrong.On the other hand, you could do nothing at all and then wait for other problems to arise in the future. Perhaps its better like that so that each problem is dealt with one by one, step by step. Who knows, I can't really give a definitive answer myself on this one to be honest.What I can say is that I knew someone with the same condition once years ago. When he was born they couldn't decide if he was a boy or girl. He lived happily with it, his family all knew about it and they were all very open about it within the family. It obviously wasn't published publically for everyone to know. Anyway he got on great with women and never seemed to have any issues. I lost contact with him many years ago so never knew how this affected him sexually otherwise I'd post here.
    dinky1 11 Replies
    • October 24, 2009
    • 00:13 AM
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  • I too have a son, 7 years old, with an embedded penis. He is an active young man, yet cannot seem to lose the "fat pad" associated with this issue. YES, he has been psychologically scarred, but not because people bring it up or look at it. He cannot sit up straight on a toilet, or urinate while defecating, which leads to needing assistance EVERY time to clean himself or him holding a cup, trashcan, etc to urinate in. He will hold it in during school days, or sometimes even have accidents and not tell anyone, and then becomes constipated. He gets constant yeast infections in the folds of his penis, which leads to more assistance by one of our family to help him clean it, fore he cannot hold it back and clean it at the same time. We are currently appealing Anthems denial of coverage for the lipectomy, which will be performed simultaneously with the urologists' procedure. I agree it is not good "psychologically" to bring this issue up, therefore we try to avoid it at all costs. However, in our son's case, it is absolutely unavoidable for him to feel humiliated and helpless every time he goes to the bathroom. If he does not tell us when he is going, is up on the second floor, and we do not hear his calls, he will crawl on all fours to find us "which makes us feel like the worst parents in the world", so that he makes sure the area is cleaned and does not turn into "the frequent" rashes associated. For someone to call us bad parents for worrying about our children's psychological well being, is horrendous.
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