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Embarrassing Erection Problems

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • December 18, 2008
  • 05:13 PM

Hello, everyone. I've noticed this topic being thrown around a lot, but I have to tell my story now.

I'm 19 years old, and I've been with my current girlfriend for four months, and we are totally into each other. Only recently have we become sexually active in any way (I'm talking foreplay too), but we haven't had intercourse yet. Anyway, I've been having a problem that really is frustrating and embarrassing me, and I'm not sure what she thinks of it: I am often times unable to maintain or even get an erection, even sometimes when she is directly trying to stimulate me. It usually goes like this: I start off pretty strong during foreplay and I have an erection, but 80% of the time I don't feel like it's the strongest erection I could have. I worry about this, and I really focus ******n NOT losing the erection, since it has happened before. Then, as it always does, the erection seems to just diminish slowly, but I still try to maintain it. It's ridiculous and embarrassing, especially when she tries to go down on me and there's...nothing there...This is SO FRUSTRATING, because she is the most beautiful woman I have ever been with and ever WANT to be with, and i just want to make her happy. I don't understand how this gorgeous girl can be on top of me biting my neck and nothing happens downstairs.

There are three things I should mention that I feel are very important. The first is that I was on anti-depressants for about 8 years, the last couple of years have been on and off. The second is that I've been masturbating since I was around 11, and I feel that I may have worked up a tolerance level. The third thing: I drink sodas way too often.

Your thoughts would be more than appreciated. I'm going to see her again this evening, and I really want things to go well. Thanks so much.

-Guy

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  • I also am having simular problems. I am 16 and masterbaited sence 12. but i have had no problem in the past. just with recent girls. and it is eating at me.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • December 31, 2008
    • 04:14 AM
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  • Hey. I think I have the same problem as you describe and its really frustrating though my case may vary slightly but I do have a real attractive girlfriend who I love. Your problem can be caused by just trying to put your attention in trying to get it up and trying to please her cause you really want to do. Maybe if you just relax and let things flow clear your mind. Women would seem to think you're not interested in them so it would help to explain things to her. :)
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • January 3, 2009
    • 10:05 PM
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  • I am 46 years old and I can relate to this problem. I was young once and have overcome it and have some suggestions. 1. Focus your attention on pleasing and pleasuring her without getting a lot of stimulated from her. The guy who pays a lot of attention to his partner will always be desirable and very popular ! 2. You need to forget about your erection because the more you think about it; the worse you can make it. 3. Stop most or all masturbation on yourself, the penis can get lazy when well exercised by you. 4. Some people feel guilty or are anxious and it can effect the erection. Try to resolve that usually by thinking or talking about it with someone you can trust or feel comfortable with. 5. Also by focusing on her (see #1) you will take your mind and the importants off your erection and you may be pleasantly surprised that when you do this you may notice you have a very hard penis and if not its OK because its about her not you. There is always time for us. 6 .She is more worried about how she looks to you and what you think just like you are about yourself !! Always remember: This will work out. None of us started off as experts in anything. :D
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • January 15, 2009
    • 04:05 AM
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  • I used to have this problem too i think i was being over stimulated by ***n and masterbation I eased up on it, quit smoking, ate better and started walking/jogging to help the mental part and blood circulation.P.S weed can screw with your sex drive too!!!!
    darkestlight24 8 Replies
    • January 15, 2009
    • 04:14 AM
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  • You can increase your sexual drive by staying healthy and Fit.By healthy and Fit i mean that you should be fit by healthy and mentally.Take good and nutritious food quit smoking.You can also increase sexual drive by Taking generic Viagra pills.These pills help you to boost your sexual drive and helps in Getting and sustaining Erection.
    jamesprx 14 Replies
    • January 17, 2009
    • 08:08 AM
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  • TRY different penis exercises work:Jelqing. Jelqing is probably the most ancient male enhancement technique (it was used by nomadic Arabian tribes.) It involves movements similar to "milking" your penis to increase the amount of blood, which fills Corpora Covernosa (the part of your penis that is filled with blood and enlarged during erections) thus making your penis visibly larger. The important fact is that jelqing, if performed regularly, can permanently increase the size of Corpora Covernosa and thus your penis size (both length and girth).Penis Stretching.There are several types of penis stretching exercises but their basic principle is the same: stretching the tissues of your penis. Stretching makes cells composing your penis grow increasing the length and girth (lesser effect) of your penis.Kegel Exercises.These exercises are not targeted at the penis itself but rather at the pubococcygeus muscle, which is used to delay erections. Thus, if you train this muscle, you will be able to prolong your erections.;)
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • January 22, 2009
    • 04:21 PM
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  • I am 46 years old and I can relate to this problem. I was young once and have overcome it and have some suggestions. 1. Focus your attention on pleasing and pleasuring her without getting a lot of stimulated from her. The guy who pays a lot of attention to his partner will always be desirable and very popular ! 2. You need to forget about your erection because the more you think about it; the worse you can make it. 3. Stop most or all masturbation on yourself, the penis can get lazy when well exercised by you. 4. Some people feel guilty or are anxious and it can effect the erection. Try to resolve that usually by thinking or talking about it with someone you can trust or feel comfortable with. 5. Also by focusing on her (see #1) you will take your mind and the importants off your erection and you may be pleasantly surprised that when you do this you may notice you have a very hard penis and if not its OK because its about her not you. There is always time for us. 6 .She is more worried about how she looks to you and what you think just like you are about yourself !! Always remember: This will work out. None of us started off as experts in anything. :DHendo, nice post. It's appreciated, as the majority will quickly label someone with this problem as either gay or retarded. It's a sad and cruel state of affairs, but you make great points that can be respected by those seeking help.
    overstandability 1 Replies
    • November 15, 2009
    • 00:57 AM
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  • Hendo, nice post. It's appreciated, as the majority will quickly label someone with this problem as either gay or retarded. It's a sad and cruel state of affairs, but you make great points that can be respected by those seeking help.I wish you guy would learn this earlier in life, A womens sex drive peaks at 30 before then we usually don't know what the hells going on with our bodies and let you guys get away with it, i really appreciate this posting, at least someones learning with age.....
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • February 17, 2010
    • 08:14 AM
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