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Another night......another erection failure. I'm at an all time low.

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • May 23, 2007
  • 11:23 AM

Hi all

This is my first post here since searching the net for help.
I'm bordering on depression and feel like I've hit rock bottom. I just don't know what to do!

First, a bit about me:

I'm 31, very fit, gym 3-5 times a week, eat well and my weight is good.

The problem:

Over the last month or so I've really battled to achieve and maintain an erection. I had this problem about 5 years ago and it seemed to go away. When I do achieve an erection, most times its weak, around 65-70% making penetration pretty much impossible. My girl friend is very supportive but to be honest, the problem is starting cause tension for us.

What I've done so far:

1. Visited my doctor. I had blood tests done, they all came back fine suggesting the problem is physcological.
2. I've used Levitra 10mg pills. Ok, these pills are bloody amazing. I become ROCK hard and can go all night! I suppose this is a good thing but in the back of my mind a little demon is asking me why I need this pill! The thing is, I don't want to be dependent on a pill for sex!

I think about this problem all day and every day which I know is not helping. But how do I get it out of my head?

Just last night my girlf friend and I tried to have sex. We started kisisng and touching.....now thats usually when a person gets aroused right? Wrong! For me, I could feel nothing below the waist, not a drop of blood going through to the penis. Why?? I remember a time when just looking at some woman I grew hard. Now, nothing seems to work.

I can get an erection through masturbation although a lot of the time the erection is weak :mad:

I'm thinking of having a full body check up as I'm convinced there is something wrong with me. I was almost praying the blood tests would reveal something.

Just wondering if anyone out there can give me some advice. I'm not far off being completely desperate. I love my girl friend very much and am very sexually attracted to her. Problem is, I cannot rise to the ocassion when we have sex, unless I've taken a pill. My doctor told me it WILL go away and that I should just keep taking the pills to keep my confidence up until it goes.

Does anyone know what other tests besides blood tests can be done and where you would go? I'm based in London, UK. I'm thinking a physical check up including the prostate (can the prostate cause ED??)

Would appreciate any help.

Jimbo :(

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  • You may want to read UK's bestseller "Your Body Speaks Your Mind"- by Deb Shapiro. Go ahead and read page 278.Best,Fruity.
    Eatafruit78 960 Replies Flag this Response
  • For what its worth I seem to have beaten this problem for now. I've relaxed.I've got more sleep.I've pushed out all the negative thoughts.I used Levitra tablets to help boost my confidence. I have eight pills left and haven't needed to use them in a few weeks. I've had no problems getting strong erections.My girlf friend has supported me all the way which helps in a very big way. Amazing what you can do if you put your mind to it. Jimbo
    Anonymous 42789 Replies Flag this Response
  • Hey Jimbo, I'm with you. I just had the same problem last night, and the night before. Here's a recap:Background: My partner and I live together, and we're very much in love. I had a little trouble with this the first time we got together, and this was a month after I split from another long term relationship. I chalked it up to nervousness, tension (I was working very long hours), unfamiliarity and the setting (we were in a motel room type setting). We've since been very active sexually, and very satisfied. I am emotionally and physically aroused by her. However ...Cue to night one: We are in another semi-public setting (I live in Korea and we went to a DVD room. She'd lived with me for two months, and had moved back to her father's house for a few days to get ready for her trip back to the U.S.), and we sat comfortably, and began kissing and touching. I achieved an erection and when we moved for penetration I went flaccid. We left, and things got very emotional and we reconciled. At this point, it's 4 a.m., I'd been up late the night before and we decided to get a few hours sleep at a motel. I try again, and go flaccid. We waited a while longer and things went well. We made love twice, parted on amazing terms and I made plans to return the next day.Cue to night two: I take the hour bus ride directly from her work to Southern Seoul, and everything goes without a hitch. I'd had a full night's sleep the night before, but I was shaking the bed rust off from the night before. I drank three or four cups of coffee that day. That night, we tried on several occasions to make love, but to no avail. Again, I'd get thoroughly erect before we started, but by the time of penetration I'd lose my erection.And this is where I stand now. Again, everything is amicable between my partner and I, and we're talking marriage, but this has become somewhat of a specter in my life.I have come to several conclusions:1. I need to normalize sex. I think I need to go on a sex detox, which I've currently started.2. I need to come to terms with my insecurities of this. I think that is fueling my problem.3. I'm not alone, and neither are you.I hope this helps you.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies Flag this Response
  • Great post D Appreciate the comments. Jimbo
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