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Sad for my dad

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • July 23, 2011
  • 04:17 AM

My dad is 60 years old, He has been an alcoholic before I was born, I am 26 years old, For the past 3 years his health has had ups and downs. He has cirrhosis of the liver, diagnosed over three years now. I already knew my dad was sick but did not understand the damage until late night hospital stays and finding him home sick. I found him at home 3 years ago throwing up blood everywhere, so at this point he has had it longer than 3 years considering we found out after taking him to the hospital that night. He tried to hide it and cover it up to keep his habit. I knew better! his abdomen was full of fluid and he looked 8 months pregnant. He had to have surgery to remove it and also had pneumonia. His esophagus veins couldn't handle the pressure of what the liver was by-passing so his veins erupted causing bleeding. He was very confused. He was not himself, could not remember things and seen things that wasn't there. After the care of the hospital they made a tremendous help on how he felt. He started to feel normal again with the medicines but continued to drink. Today his eyes are very yellow, His skin is bruising, His legs are in pain, he is fully awake at night and asleep during the day, His abdomen has swollen a lot worse, He has anger moments for no reason and doesn't remember things that just happened. He doesn't eat or drink. He can barely get off the couch for five minutes...I am really scared. He is in my care and I don't know what to do. I do not know how much time he has left...but I must say every night I pray for another day with him to see my real dad that seemed to fade with the disease. This is a horrible and painful way to die from what I read. Prayers to all....

PS The fluid in his stomach can cause him to drown if it becomes too much and in his lungs :(

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  • Sorry about your dad. I read all of these comments and it's so scary to think that all of us are strangers yet have a very similiar problem in our lives. I worry about my husband everyday, he gets angry with me for even mentioning his condition. He won't go to the doctor, he just looks at me and rolls his eyes when I ask him. I beg him everyday and tell him I want us to grow old together, we've been together since high school. He knows he needs to stop drinking but says he's cutting back. I tell him he can't have one drink he just says he's cutting back. I understand it's a disease,,,they can't stop like that. I guess if you are tired of being sick and tired you will at least try,,,,not sure why he just won't even try. I'm angry, scared, sad, angry that he has taken our lifes together and just destroyed the whole path we were on, scared he's going to die right in front of me and very sad to see him go through this. I've threatened to tell his family (noone knows but me, they just think he has stomach problems), he says if I do he will leave me and noone will ever see him. He's not the man I married, he doesn't even look the same anymore. I get scared when I look at him because he looks dead, he's stop eating and I do everything to get him eat. Each one of you reading this I'm sorry for all that you may be going through. I really am. I never saw myself sitting here on a message board looking for answers to try to keep my husband alive. Never in a million years would I think I would be here.
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