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Did my husband give me HPV?

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  • Posted By: painfully_yours
  • August 1, 2008
  • 00:24 AM

6 years ago, I was told by my Gynecologist that I had contracted the Human Papillary Virus and had warts on my cervix. My doctor removed the warts that had turned into tumors in the 3-4 stage of cancer by removing the part of my cervix that had bad tumors. Thank god they were contained. She left 2 small growths that were on the walls of my cervix so I needed to keep getting check-ups. I did this for a while, but then stopped. I haven't gone to see my doctor for 3 years but now I have pelvic pain and frequent menstrual cycles. Keep in mind that I am 44 years of age, married for 20 years and was a virgin when I got married and never cheated on him. My doctor wanted to speak to my husband an told him that he gave them to me, so he needed to be checked. In other words, he cheated on me! Even knowing that, I made and appointment for him and his doctor said he had nothing! I know I never cheated on him and I remember the day I became so itchy, that I wanted to rip out my vagina. My husband still today "claims" he had nothing to do with this virus so my questions are: Could it be true? Could I have contracted it some other way? Will I get cervical cancer by not keeping up with the 6 month biopsy? If anyone can help with my questions, please respond.

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  • Since you were a virgin and he has been your only lover, he is the culprit, however, he may have gotten it before you were married. The question is, do you want to stay with him? Do you love him? You should get a blood test for herpes 2 since you had itching...just to be on the safe side. Also, you are asking for trouble. You never got rid of all of it and refuse to see a doctor for further treatment. Don't wait; save your life right now. See a doctor and do whatever it takes. I knew a woman who, like you, avoided the treatment and died a horrible painful death. Don't do that to yourself as mad as you are at your husband. And remember, he could have had it before you were married. Doctors don't seem to check men for the disease, even though they are the carriers. They suffer with prostate cancer in the end.
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  • I would be very very concerned that you haven't had a follow up in three years and have now developed pelvic pain.You are fixating on the wrong thing right about now - I would care less about who gave who what and more scared about the fact that you could have cervical cancer. RUN don't walk to the doctor ASAP.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • August 23, 2008
    • 08:41 PM
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  • Also, it could have spread into your uterus. You probably neeed a uterine biospy by now. You really need proper medical care...and, again, he could have had it before you two were married.
    Monsterlove 2921 Replies
    • September 6, 2008
    • 05:30 PM
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