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6 months old, no eye contact, but tracking toys

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • February 4, 2009
  • 06:22 PM

Hi, my concern is my 6 months old baby girl. She has some developmental delays, the main of which is the fact that she doesnt show eye-to-eye contact. Seems not to be interested in people: doesnt normally turn to the voice, doesnt watch people move in the room, etc. However, the girl does react to toys, tracks them quite well, tries to grab them with her hands. Her reaction to toys is way stronger than to people (still not good enough for her age though). She smiles, laughs, but also mainly when she listens to music, us singing, massaging her or when she watches her toys or the light.

We showed the girl to the doctors. They seem to be a bit lost. Its too early for autism. The doctors just suspect something in the brain or genes. we are currently waiting for RMI and genetic test. However, I am very worried and wanted to know if any of you had at least heard of the similar case and what were the details and concequences?

Thanks a lot for the answers,

concerned mother.

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  • Have you found out anything about your little girl? I was searching for the same answers. My little boy is a little over 6 months and we are having the same problem. Everything you said sounds exactly like what we are seeing. Please let me know what you have found out! Thanks!
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  • i don't think its too early for autism,autism usually first manifests during infancy or childhood.and ur symptoms match autism
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  • I realize it's been several months since your first post, but don't be too quick to jump on the Autism bandwagon even now that she's almost 1. My son was recently diagnosed and while he shows many of the symptoms, I believe they're missing something. We received a write-up of the initial consultation with a pediatric psychologist and there were mistakes in the note about facts like ages and things she simply wanted to believe or just made up like walking on toes and not liking peek-a-boo!Autism is a really quick diagnosis for a lot of symptoms. Most developmental specialists I've talked to state that treating it is simply treating the symptoms until they're resolved.And if there's a doctor that feels comfortable diagnosing autism younger that 18 months, I suggest you find a new doctor.That being said, based on the information you've provided, there's absolutley no way to know if she is developing autism. I say develop because some kids just develop more slowly and don't hit milestones and some go from being perfectly average to almost comotose.It seems like you can help her learn to make eye contact, as well as any other things you may be worried about. With autism, they try to encourage a child to do something by rewarding them when they do it. For instance...you can get what you want when you ask for it instead of crying- If you look at me when I say your name, I have a hug or a kiss for you.We used to hover a colorful blanket in front of my son so he could track it and then suddenly peek from behind it and laugh and tickle him. Each time, we'd try to keep eye contact longer and longer but as soon as he looked away, we'd hide again. He still loves peek-a-boo and we can even play hide and seek with him- an 18-month-old child diagnosed autistic. If you need more information, I'm reading Overcoming Autism by Lynn Koegel and it's really helpful in teaching how to help your child overcome symptoms associated with the condition.
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  • Have you found out anything about your little girl? I was searching for the same answers. My little boy is a little over 6 months and we are having the same problem. Everything you said sounds exactly like what we are seeing. Please let me know what you have found out! Thanks!Hi, did you find out anything about your son? I am going through the same thing with my daughter...can you write me at firefly_19_@hotmail.com ? Thanks !
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    • January 27, 2010
    • 03:45 AM
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  • Hi, I'm going through the same thing with my daughter, 7 months. Did you find out anything? Please write me at firefly_19_@hotmail.com
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • January 27, 2010
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  • Hi, my concern is my 6 months old baby girl. She has some developmental delays, the main of which is the fact that she doesnt show eye-to-eye contact. Seems not to be interested in people: doesnt normally turn to the voice, doesnt watch people move in the room, etc. However, the girl does react to toys, tracks them quite well, tries to grab them with her hands. Her reaction to toys is way stronger than to people (still not good enough for her age though). She smiles, laughs, but also mainly when she listens to music, us singing, massaging her or when she watches her toys or the light. We showed the girl to the doctors. They seem to be a bit lost. Its too early for autism. The doctors just suspect something in the brain or genes. we are currently waiting for RMI and genetic test. However, I am very worried and wanted to know if any of you had at least heard of the similar case and what were the details and concequences?Thanks a lot for the answers,concerned mother.Hi Julia,We saw your post on the site. We have a son who is just over 6 months and displays exactly the same symptoms as mentioned by others in the posts. We saw you as the last person replying to the thread and thought of sharing our experience with you.We have been going to a pediatric opthamologist and a neuro opthamologist. They have still not been able to give us a diagnosis of the problem. They have asked us to come back for monthly visits and right now they are saying that it could be a case of delayed maturity. However, we have not seen any remarkable improvement in the last few months in our son. We are also very worried which I am sure any parent in this situation will be.Do let us know of your experience with your doctors.Thanks,GSri
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  • Hi, I wrote in this forum when my daughter was 7 months old. She was showing the same ''symptoms'' as Julia's baby, very little eye contact, but played well with toys ( I knew she could hear very well as she would turn to look at ''noises'', but she showed no interest in humans).I just wanted to let you know that for a few months, I worked hard with my daughter to get her to make eye contact, I used several strategies used with children with autism which I got from different websites and parents of children with autism. I also got advice from a child specialist in my area. She noticed that I was too quick to give my daughter what she wanted, I was extremely in tune with her needs, and intrusive ! For example, I would not wait for her to ''ask'' for things by making eye contact, crying for a toy, etc. I would just give it to her if I saw she was looking at it. So, one of the things I did was to wait a bit longer so that she would understand that ''making contact'' was good and would help her get what she wants. For example, if she was in her jumper, I used to take her out as soon as I noticed a bit of discomfort on her part, she didn't even have to ''ask'' to get out. But when I started to wait a bit she would end up making eye contact after a minute or two...Here are some examples of techniques I used to get her to make eye contact: I would put a toy she wanted between my eyes, and say ''look into my eyes'', when she looked near my eyes, (doesn not have to be directly in the eyes) I would give it to her and congratulate her verbally and with a big smile, When she mastered this exercise, I would put the toy near my face and say ''look into my eyes'', if she didn't I would move it closer to my eyes, when she would look near my eyes (doesn't have to be directly in the eyes at first) I would give her the toy and congratulate her. When she mastered this exercise I would put the toy further from my face and repeat the same technique. I would make soap bubbles which would get her to look at my faceI pretended to be a cat and a dog (she paid attention to animals) and she paid attention to me when i did this I sang to her and was very expressive, with big eyes and smilesI stopped all tv (she loved baby einstein, but I could tell this was making her be more into her own little space...)I would take away a toy she was playing with, put near my eyes and say ''look into my eyes'', and when she looked near my eyes I would give it to her ( I only did this a few times a day, cause she didn't like it very much !!!) When I would feed her, I used to move my hand all over the place trying to follow her mouth...then I stopped, and waited for her to make eye contact before giving her the food, sometimes saying ''look into my eyes'' while holding the spoon near my eyes, and to my amazement, she caught on very fast. After a few meals, she figured out that in order to get a spoonfull she had to ''ask'' with her eyes, she then started to ''ask'' by looking at me and making a sound Everyday, I used every opportunity to ''work'' on eye contact, trying to make it fun for both of us, I got down an played with her alot...Whithin a few months, I felt I had a completely different baby. I don't know, and will never know, if what I did made a difference, but I have no regrets and believe it was all worth it. My daughter is not showing any signs of autism anymore, she is very social, just learned to say ''bye'' and says it at the appropriate time...I hope this helps...my e-mail is firefly_19_@hotmail.com if you have any questions Melissa
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  • Hi, my concern is my 6 months old baby girl. She has some developmental delays, the main of which is the fact that she doesnt show eye-to-eye contact. Seems not to be interested in people: doesnt normally turn to the voice, doesnt watch people move in the room, etc. However, the girl does react to toys, tracks them quite well, tries to grab them with her hands. Her reaction to toys is way stronger than to people (still not good enough for her age though). She smiles, laughs, but also mainly when she listens to music, us singing, massaging her or when she watches her toys or the light. We showed the girl to the doctors. They seem to be a bit lost. Its too early for autism. The doctors just suspect something in the brain or genes. we are currently waiting for RMI and genetic test. However, I am very worried and wanted to know if any of you had at least heard of the similar case and what were the details and concequences?Thanks a lot for the answers,concerned mother.Hi Julia,Have you found out anything about your daughter? My son is 5,5 months old and we are having the same problem. My husband says that I overreact and that i am too concerned... Shoul I take my baby to some developement specialist? Please let me know what you have found out! Did everything turn well?I would be very thankful if you write me: giedrusia2003@yahoo.com
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  • Did you ever find anything out about your little girl? I'm going through the same with mine and would love some input on what you did. Thanks! please contact me at seabreeze88@juno.com.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • August 21, 2010
    • 04:16 PM
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  • Hi all, I'm facing exactly the same problem. My baby is coming to 6 months, 34 Weeker preemie. He does not make eye contact, in fact he actively avoid our gaze, does not smile much either. He does not recognize any of us, probably since he does not look at anyone. He started tracking toys only ard close to 5 months and still do not roll or even interested to do so. He does not seem aware of his surroundings. He's seeing a physiotherapist now for his milestones but nothing mentioned about his social development. I'm wondering how your kids are doing now....
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • September 4, 2010
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  • i don't think its too early for autism,autism usually first manifests during infancy or childhood.and ur symptoms match autismIt is too early to say it is autism because my son hit all the milestones and had excellent eye contact, was interested in people and interacting with them and he was diagnosed with ASD at 2 1/2 years. Remember that Autism is a spectrum, not one person with Autism has the same experience and issues as another person. Autism is not an illness so there is no symptoms....it is a developmental disability. People are not educated enough to know what autism is unless they live with it. My first doctor was not trained to see it and this is very common unfortunately...and this is a doctor. No doctor will say it is autism this early. I have a few friends that have kids that were late bloomers and wanted nothing to do with people at that age and they don't have autism. As I said before my child was an early bloomer and he has ASD. Too early to worry....just relax and keep up with helping ur child learn new skills.
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    • February 27, 2011
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  • Hello there,I appreciate that this is a very old thread but I would be really grateful for any updates from previous posters, good or bad. My little girl is 4 months old and very rarely makes or holds eye contact. She seems to have very little interest in people and prefers to look round a room or at lights than she does faces. She does not initiate engagement with people and smiles rarely, mainly at me during changing times. She also does not hold my gaze when she smiles, prefering to look away. I am trying many different exercises to get her attention and am constantly talking, singing and smiling at her. I am at a loss as to what to do and feel so sad. We are awaiting a peaditrician's appointment and I suspect something possibly genetic but any further information on your little ones would really help.Thank you.
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  • Hello there I appreciate that this is a very old thread but I would be extremely grateful for any update good or bad as I am worrying incessantly about my little girl. She is nearly 4 months old and I have noticed that she very rarely makes or holds eye contact, preferring to look around a room, at lights or to stare into the distance. The only time she will look at me are when she is on her back while I am changing her. She does not initiate engagement with people and has never studied faces. Sometimes, if I have friends round etc I don't think she is even aware of their presence which is starting to become rather awkward . She does smile but not often and only after a lot of work on my behalf. When she smiles she tends to avert her gaze and turn her head away from me. If someone tries talking to her when being held she will do anything to look the other way. I am growing increasingly worried and am at a loss as to what to do. I am constantly trying to get and hold het attention by talking to her, singing and through play but she really has no interest in the human face. She is grasping toys and tracking objects so I know she can see!We are currently awaiting a peaditrician's appointment and I suspect there is potentially something genetic or neurological going on, but any updates you have on your little ones would really help me. I love my little girl so much and at the moment feel like my heart is breaking.Thank you.
    Elsie83 3 Replies Flag this Response
  • Hello there I appreciate that this is a very old thread but I would be extremely grateful for any update good or bad as I am worrying incessantly about my little girl. She is nearly 4 months old and I have noticed that she very rarely makes or holds eye contact, preferring to look around a room, at lights or to stare into the distance. The only time she will look at me are when she is on her back while I am changing her. She does not initiate engagement with people and has never studied faces. Sometimes, if I have friends round etc I don't think she is even aware of their presence which is starting to become rather awkward . She does smile but not often and only after a lot of work on my behalf. When she smiles she tends to avert her gaze and turn her head away from me. If someone tries talking to her when being held she will do anything to look the other way. I am growing increasingly worried and am at a loss as to what to do. I am constantly trying to get and hold het attention by talking to her, singing and through play but she really has no interest in the human face. She is grasping toys and tracking objects so I know she can see!We are currently awaiting a peaditrician's appointment and I suspect there is potentially something genetic or neurological going on, but any updates you have on your little ones would really help me. I love my little girl so much and at the moment feel like my heart is breaking.Thank you.
    Elsie83 3 Replies Flag this Response
  • How did you appointment go and how is your little girl? My son is the same as your daughter and I am so worried!
    Amirmak 1 Replies Flag this Response
  • Hi, my concern is my 6 months old baby girl. She has some developmental delays, the main of which is the fact that she doesnt show eye-to-eye contact. Seems not to be interested in people: doesnt normally turn to the voice, doesnt watch people move in the room, etc. However, the girl does react to toys, tracks them quite well, tries to grab them with her hands. Her reaction to toys is way stronger than to people (still not good enough for her age though). She smiles, laughs, but also mainly when she listens to music, us singing, massaging her or when she watches her toys or the light. We showed the girl to the doctors. They seem to be a bit lost. Its too early for autism. The doctors just suspect something in the brain or genes. we are currently waiting for RMI and genetic test. However, I am very worried and wanted to know if any of you had at least heard of the similar case and what were the details and concequences?Thanks a lot for the answers,concerned mother.I can understand your problem...You know there are variety of toys available in the market that have glowing lights of various colours and offcoures some that play some mp3 tracks or music...You shoud get few such toys for her ...This will automatically lend her attention on such baby toys and then she will then defenitely start love playing with toys ...And don't worry my friend she will be perfectly alright !!!!! http://f1.hgimg.com/http://f1.hgimg.com/images/icons/icon7.png
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  • Hi, my concern is my 6 months old baby girl. She has some developmental delays, the main of which is the fact that she doesnt show eye-to-eye contact. Seems not to be interested in people: doesnt normally turn to the voice, doesnt watch people move in the room, etc. However, the girl does react to toys, tracks them quite well, tries to grab them with her hands. Her reaction to toys is way stronger than to people (still not good enough for her age though). She smiles, laughs, but also mainly when she listens to music, us singing, massaging her or when she watches her toys or the light. We showed the girl to the doctors. They seem to be a bit lost. Its too early for autism. The doctors just suspect something in the brain or genes. we are currently waiting for RMI and genetic test. However, I am very worried and wanted to know if any of you had at least heard of the similar case and what were the details and concequences?Thanks a lot for the answers,concerned mother.I acn understand your condition...You know there are variety of toys available in the market that have glowing lights of various colour or some that plays some sort of music or mp3 track...You should get few of them for her...This will automatically indulge her interest with playing with such baby toys...Don't worry my friend she'll be completely alright !!!! http://f1.hgimg.com/images/icons/icon7.png
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  • Would love to hear how your babies r doing now.
    I'm going through the same thing with my baby.
    My little girl is 4months now and will be 5month in 2 weeks time. She was born 37 weeks.5.1pounds.
    I'm getting little concerned because she makes little eye contact. Shes more interested looking at her toys then human faces. She does smiles, coos ,laugh and makes eye contact when she feels like it. It's hit and miss. When I call her name she doesn't look at me, not until I clap my hands and get her attention. It doesn't seem though she is deaf because loves music and when I sing her song. There are days she gives me good smiles and laugh at me or other member of family. But sometimes she will just look with no reaction and just look away. She is best when lying down, then she smiles.
    Anonymous 0 Replies
    • February 22, 2016
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  • Any updates on how your little ones are now? Please it means a lot to people going through the same thing like I am at the moment with my almost five month old baby girl xx
    Anonymous 1 Replies
    • September 3, 2016
    • 02:36 PM
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  • Hi all,

    I am from India and facing the same issues with my 5 month old boy. He never does eye contact but looks at toys, follow them, plays with them. I could see others also facing the same issue.
    It will be really helpful if someone can share their experience, final diagnosis, what should I do. I will be really thankful to you.

    Please reply to me at Mishra.deepti@gmail.com. Thanks a lot. Regards, Deepti
    Anonymous 1 Replies
    • September 9, 2016
    • 02:06 PM
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