I have a 28-year-old son, very bright and quite artistic, who has been unruly and uncontrollable all his life: as a toddler, as a teenager, and has been getting just a bit better lately. He was bedwetting and had encopresis till 15. He has always been hyperactive, engaged in risky behaviors, and seemed to lack common sense, and what was especially upsetting - conscience. He has had trouble with the law and right now, although he is not drinking any more, he does smoke pot saying that this is the only thing that calms him down.
He hasn't been able to keep jobs and is having trouble managing his money. I am at wits' end what to do to help him (and the rest of the family) to survive.