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  • Posted By: concernedfriend0205
  • June 10, 2009
  • 06:57 AM

My best friend has recently shown signs of having an acute mental health problem. The best way to describe it is by saying that he created an unreal relationship with a girl. He saw her in class and started to text her hundreds of times a day and she would respond. He had never spoken to this girl in person and they never texted about anything of substance. After about three days of this, he claimed to be so passionately in love with a girl that he didn't know at all. She was interested in someone else and didn't want to talk to him anymore. Its about two months later and it is 2a.m. He just told me that he missed her so much he couldn't think about anything else and he didn't know how he would make it through the summer. Keep in mind that he never actually talked to this girl. What could this mean? Any help would be wonderful.

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  • Okay, first of all there's nothing of the description here that would suggest a mental illness, acute or otherwise. It's not uncommon for school-aged individuals, more commonly male than female, to develop infatuation over the opposite sex. Texting, which is a more recent revelation, further lowers the anxiety normally associated with demonstrating an interest in a person. It would not be uncommon, therefore, to observe characteristics that are similarly detached from the more traditional form of requisite interaction. Much like email, the actual intent within this type of communication can often be misconstrued. In this case, the young man in question obviously felt that his emotions connected with the text exchange were mutual. Again, this is not uncommon and desperate passion often results in believing what one wishes to see rather than the actual circumstances involved. Two months would not be outside the realm of normalcy in such an instance and with time, he will gradually move on. There's nothing here to suggest actual fatalistic thinking or ideation and youth has a characteristic pattern of turnover where novelty is concerned. He'll be fine.Best regards, J Cottle, MD
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  • I agree with Dr Cottle.Theres nothing here at all to suggest any form of mental illness.It just sounds like infatuation and unrequited love.He will move on eventually.I also have to wonder if you have your friend's permission to be writing online about their life and why you have such an interest in his personal life?I don't think its your place to hold such an interest in someones personal life unless they directly invite you to as sometimes people might misinterpret normal human emotions as mental illness because of lack of insight and understanding into a persons behaviour and/or emotional responses because they themselves can't relate to that style of thinking or feeling.It's best to leave any concerns regarding mental illnesses to that person themselves and people that are qualified in that area and focus on your own life and to your own personal business unless your friend has directly asked for your involvement.
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