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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • January 14, 2007
  • 11:27 AM

Im going out of my mind. 6 weeks ago everything was fine, then I allowed a guy to perform oral sex on me. After a couple days my penis felt really uncomfortable and strange irritating pains low down in my pubic area and I began to worry. After a week I went to my STI clinic. All tests came back negative. 10 days after contact with the guy I started getting daily Diarrhoea and terrible discomfort under my right rib cage and ache behind it in my back. Ive had this symptom every day for six weeks. I kept on putting it down to anxiety but the diarrhoea is still here. ive been back to mt STD clinic 3 times. Theyve tested for Gonhorrea, Syph, Chlamyidia and done bloods/urines and viral swab for Herpes. I found I was geting so worried that I began to worry this could be Hepatitis. They did check for this and full liver function tests - and results came back at start of Jan all negative. By rights I should be very happy and releived - but Im still sufferring from same symptoms. Ive since visited my GP for blood, urine and fecal testing. Examination showed nothing and Im waiting for results still. Whats wrong with me? The abdominal pain is strongest half way between my belly button and my penis. Its a persistant dull ache that makes me feel like I want to wee and the penis can feel irritated too, but this could be referred pain. Maybe its more to do with irritation of my bowel and the pain is being referred into my urinary system? Sometimes at nightI get this terrible spasm like pain in my pelvic floor area. The Docs checked by prostate and said it feels normal. Im going out of my mind. Im worried Ive got an STI thats not been detected. Its affecting my relationship with my girlfriend as she doesnt understand why im off sex with her. If its not an STI, what is it?

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  • This sounds somewhat like a kidney infection or kidney stones. Kidney stones can be harder to diagnose, and sometimes can only be diagnosed by an ultrasound. KS can be really painful. Not to worry you, but diarrhea can be a symptom of HIV. Also, it's important to know that HIV testing can come back false until the virus has enough time to build up in your system. I know that this is a very embarassing thing to talk about with your girlfriend, but I think that you should explain to her the situation. If nothing else, use protection with her until your doctor has assured you that you don't have any kind of STD. If you do have sex, with anyone else, just be careful.
    NurseCJT 25 Replies
    • January 14, 2007
    • 11:55 AM
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  • I agree with the previous poster. You do owe it to your girlfriend to explain. Is she aware you are bisexual? She has a right to know that.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • January 14, 2007
    • 02:15 PM
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  • I've heard about the HIV / Diahorrea symptom - and Ive been tested 1x. My health advisor and STD Doctor told me not to worry about HIV - its extremely rare/virtually unheard of to get HIV from oral sex, especially from him performing on me - in fact he is supposedly at greater risk by me ******g into his mouth. However, as with all risks, i have to accept its not risk free. Im stressed enough - so i dont want to think too much about this until im retested at 3 months. In mean time I just hope Docs results are clear.As for talking to my girlfriend - thats a major issue. I just cant. I love her so much. Ive abstained from sex since the encounter for her safety until Im sure. I always practice safe sex and have never been unfaithful and have no idea why I allowed this to happen to me. I just never realised their were so many diseases transmittable via oral - and I thought I was educated too!I dont actually consider my self bisexual. This was a 1 off curious encounter - and to be honest I hated it! I just hope my curiosity with a gay guy doesnt ruin my relationship with he one I love, let alone destroy my life.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • January 15, 2007
    • 06:03 PM
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  • I would suggest you test for candida as it is possible this was transmitted orally and is causing your symptoms. Please visit www.candidasupport.org and www.wholeapproach.com and get more info. There is a saliva test and written questionaire you can fill out... Take a good quality probiotic to help with the diarrhea. I agree there could be kidney involvement and an ultrasound might help. Get some therapy as there are some fundamental issues you need to deal with and figure out why you felt the need to have a "one off" sexual encounter when you are supposedly in a loving committed relationship. Do you have a history of childhood trauma or abuse? There is an element of sabotage there, I think. Please understand I don't mean to be harsh and am not judging you. But if you don't address the emotional ramifications now, then it will fester deep within your psyche and cause further problems down the road. Wishing you the best of luck.Doctor of Oriental Medicine
    acuann 3080 Replies
    • January 15, 2007
    • 09:48 PM
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  • Sounds like it could be stress related IBS(irratated bowel syndrome) to me. The fact that you've had an encounter with someone outside your relationship and you comment on the amount of stress you feel suggests you possibly feel guilty and you are unduely worrying about the fact you may have "caught" something because the the encounter was experimental and you are worried it may in turn pass something to your girlfriend.If you have been checked for sti's then you arent going to pass anything to her. IBS caused from stress can take a while to settle down but you'd have to stop worrying about stuff first!!
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • January 15, 2007
    • 10:08 PM
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  • I keep asking myself the very same thing - is this stress related? The thing is I am very much aware of what stress can do and always imagined I would know if I was suffering from the effects of it. I am very anxious, but dont think Im suffering from stres symptoms. The discomfort I have is very real. It wakes me in the night. I work hard and this takes my mind off of it - but as soon as I am unoccupied I become aware of it. I just cant stand this. What have I done? I dont know what I will do if I find out that this encounter has ruined my relationship. She means soooooooo much to me - how could I be so stupid. The Docs tell me I have no stds detectable and based on this I went to my family GP with symptoms. I should have some results back on soon. Maybe the fact that Ive a GP appointment coming up is why I am so anxious again. Am I screwed up or what. Having no one to talk to is perhpas the worst thing of all. Why why why cant the pain just go away.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • January 17, 2007
    • 07:57 PM
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