Hi, I could really use some help. My user name and profession are a little strange given the fact that I am terrified of surgery. Here is the problem. From dental procedures to having an MRI with contrast in my shoulder, I am simply terrified. My heart feels like its going to burst out of my chest, I feel dry mouthed, nauseated and have the shakes. I finally found out that there is a name for it and I'm not the only one with this. The rest of the story: My wife has to have surgery next week and it is terrifying my. I seem to be running through this same gambit of emotions with her surgery as I would my own, with one exception. I have bouts of intense rage toward a Dr. I have never met. I try to keep this under control, but it leaks out sometimes. The surgery is elective, with a good chance of relieving her abdomen pain from adhesions. She is to the point of calling it off because of this, and I feel horrible about it and selfish. How can I help myself get over this before her surgery.
BTW I know they procedure inside and out, so knowledge of it isn't this issue. Her and myself are the only people that I have this fear for. I'm a medic, and have seen a lot over the years, especially in Iraq.