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Teenage emotional disorders - need info. Help!

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  • Posted By: 1covenant
  • October 1, 2006
  • 08:49 PM

My teenage son of 16 has had his best friend over for the weekend. My son is very sensitive and going through that phase of everything being overwhelming, wrong clothes, wrong hair, everything magnified as an extreme, low self esteem and I am very concious of how to talk with him and help him through most problems. His friend I found out after his last two visits is taking antidepressants and has problems with behavioral issues. He is very sweet and is a good friend for my son, seems very balanced and appropriate. However, today we had an incident for the first time that I had to correct my son and his friend in borrowing and lending games, game systems, as his friend had already borrowed a game system and hasn't brought it back and wanted to borrow another. His 10 year old sister has my son's game system. I addressed the situation appropriately I thought, but the young man broke to tears when corrected, started breathing erradically and couldn't even communicate. He started writing notes to communicate with me saying he has an emotional overreaction disorder and can't cope with emotional situations due to his problems and the lack of control by his meds. Help, now I feel horrible. He never wants to go home from our house, at least, not up until now!!!! Doesn't ever want me to talk with his mother for any reason. Help, what's going on??????:confused:

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  • well you can never knows what goes on behind closed doors. but sounds like ALOT of unresolved stuff with his emotions. he obviously has not learned self management of his emotions and seems to have fear of mom at this point. probably some emotional abuse going on there. the fact that he doesn't want to leave your home says something about you, that things are a little more healthy over there, so i think if it were me, i would set up situations at my house where conversations could be started with them ( not an easy task with 16 year old boys) and make it really emotionally safe and see if he doesn't open up so you can find out what's really going on. maybe make pointers to him on how you have managed your emotions. kids will sometimes open up to others a lot better than parents. sounds like you may be the angel to help him out. good luck.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • October 2, 2006
    • 01:26 PM
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  • My teenage son of 16 has had his best friend over for the weekend. My son is very sensitive and going through that phase of everything being overwhelming, wrong clothes, wrong hair, everything magnified as an extreme, low self esteem and I am very concious of how to talk with him and help him through most problems. His friend I found out after his last two visits is taking antidepressants and has problems with behavioral issues. He is very sweet and is a good friend for my son, seems very balanced and appropriate. However, today we had an incident for the first time that I had to correct my son and his friend in borrowing and lending games, game systems, as his friend had already borrowed a game system and hasn't brought it back and wanted to borrow another. His 10 year old sister has my son's game system. I addressed the situation appropriately I thought, but the young man broke to tears when corrected, started breathing erradically and couldn't even communicate. He started writing notes to communicate with me saying he has an emotional overreaction disorder and can't cope with emotional situations due to his problems and the lack of control by his meds. Help, now I feel horrible. He never wants to go home from our house, at least, not up until now!!!! Doesn't ever want me to talk with his mother for any reason. Help, what's going on??????:confused:I think he is being manipulativeand needs to return your stuff asap- and if he is afraid of his mom you need to approach her and say you would like to have your things back. I am sorry but I don't buy his act. I am sure he has issues but he is using them to get what he wants and you need to nip that in the bud- he can be a friend and all but he needs to behave as he would in front of his mom and not haveing his own games doesn't mean he is being mistreated- she needs to know that he is not behaving and if she has a certain way with him that is their deal- I don't agree with the whole idea that the fault lies with the parent- I think parents need support in dealing with their kids and if he has very little wiggle room then he can't get away with anything and saying that he is afraid of her may be a way of having you let him keep your game cause once mom finds out she will do the right thing and return it- he is finding a way of going around her- go to the parent and let her know what he is doing- unless you want to give the systems and games away and have him think you are weak- sorry but nice for ALL TOO Many can be weak or stupid and you are not you are just considerate and sensitive and thoughtful- Let them sort out their own issues and let mom know -= if you find sores, lesions, or marks on him then you can call it abuse and do the right thing- call child protective services - but until then - give her the benefit of the doubt and call her on her son's behavior-
    founddog 188 Replies
    • August 28, 2009
    • 05:39 PM
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