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Sudden Loss of Horniness

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • February 18, 2008
  • 00:59 AM

Hi, I'm hoping someone can help me with this problem.

I'm 43 and single, and have always had a good sex drive, no erection problems, etc. Sometime about a year ago however I noticed a very sudden drop in my level of horniness, meaning that when I get turned on, the feeling is nowhere near as strong.

I first noticed the problem laying in bed one morning when I was thinking about something sexual for quite some time, and I didn't have an erection, even though I was still very wet. I normally always got an erection quite easily just by thinking of something sexual, but now that's pretty much a rarity, I pretty much need physical stimulation to make it happen.

The funny thing is that I don't really have a problem maintaining an erection as such, it's just that that strong burning feeling you get when you're sexually excited just isn't there anymore. Also I used to have very sensitive nipples, when a woman played with them I got very aroused, but now pretty much nothing. Same with my testicles, I used to enjoy them being squeezed a bit by a woman but now I can take it or leave it.

I still enjoy sex and get still get aroused and everything, just not quite as much as before. During sex if I get momentarily distracted or have to avoid reaching an orgasm, it will be quite hard to build it back up again. Sometimes I'd get quite ****y, then suddenly lose the urge, and it would take quite some time to get ****y again. I don't think it's an anxiety issue because I notice the difference even when masturbating, sometimes I can lose the urge halfway through for a while, and sometimes it takes me quite a while to reach orgasm.

One concern I did have was that I may have suffered some kind of testicle damage, I've had sex several times with a woman who really squeezed them very hard and gave them a hard time, when you're very aroused you don't really feel the pain so much. I remember I had sex with her sometime before I noticed my problem, I can't really remember how long before, but that was the last time I remember enjoying having my testicles squeezed.

I went to the doc and he ran a full blood test, he said everything's normal, testosterone level is normal, I know when you get testicle damage you generally have low testosterone, so it's all a bit of a mystery. The doc said that everyone loses it a bit as they age buy my concern is that it seemed to happen so suddenly in my case. So anyhow, I'd really appreciate any help anyone can offer.


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  • Anyone? Please help!
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • February 20, 2008
    • 10:38 PM
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  • The hypothalumus in the brain is key to sexual functioning. Its not just all about testostereone. If dopamine transmission is low in this area, then libido etc will be lower. Dopamine receptors can become less sensitised in the hypothalumus too. If dopamine tansmission is low, prolactin is usually high....so perhaps have a blood test for prolactin ?? Herbs can help. Nettle leaves and root work wonders for erections. There are many other herbs that can boost sex drive. Also, trying zinc at 30mg per day (but for MAX 3 weeks) can boost libido - but don't overdose on it. There are drugs (dopamine agonists) that can indirectly boost libido by acting on hypothalumus dopamine too. In fact, Parkinson's patients can become hypersexual due to overstimulated dopamine in the hypothalumus.
    kentishman 19 Replies
    • February 24, 2008
    • 10:07 AM
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  • i am 21 years old and i have the same problem,i get hard but dont get feeling of horniness anymore which is the reason why i cant maintain an erection for more than 2 to 5 min.its frustrating .i use to smoke alot but now i have stopped and i masturbate alot to **** and i have reduced that now.i need help cos i got this beautiful sexy girlfriend i need to be banging the brains out of and i cant and thats really unlike me and this is getting annoying can someone plz help me.
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