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  • Posted By: lalapalooza
  • March 31, 2008
  • 03:41 AM

Hi there everyone

These are some of the problems that I have, and I have always had a problem of pin pointing it properly, but i will give it a good shot.

Im not able to enunciate or pronounce words properly, most often i can't say things clearly, people have hard time understanding me sometimes, at times i speak too softly even tough i try to speak louder. Sometimes im at loss of words, or i dont have a chain of thought. Even when i try hard to come up with topics to talk about, most often im fail. This is especially true when talking to females of my own age( around 30). I have talked to psychiatrist and speech therapist, and they have told me there is nothing wrong with me, and have prescribed me anxiety and depression medication.

hoping someone can shed some light into this.

thanks

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  • Try looking up Social Anxiety Disorder and see if that matches any of your issues....
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  • You know I have similar problems, i'm not sure why. For me I have a very hard time communicating when I am speaking to angry people. I get very frazzled almost as if my mind is out of control. Oftentimes I can't find any words that make sense at the time. Like everything's just fuzzy. I have had this problem with girls too. I'm married now, but now I feel like when i'm around other women other than my wife I have a hard time finding words to say and im always worried about saying something stupid. I've been told that I have Social Anxiety Disorder, but i've never been officially diagnosed. You might check it out, i'm thinking about seeking help for it.-joshua
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  • View the information and weblinks for social anxiety/shyness, and self confidence, in sections 9, and 38, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris Here is an exercise that can help you. It is called "Act as If." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior.Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit.Try this for a month, in every situation you can. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing. One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave. People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot". But, you're probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy). It will teach you that, although it isn't actually pleasant, you will survive; be stronger for the experience, and the next time (should you need to repeat this type of therapy) will be considerably easier. Remember: "A fear avoided is a fear strengthened; a fear faced is a fear reduced." Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often. Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me". Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind.Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger. Although there are anti-anxiety medications (anxiolytics) available, these come with risks, and the possibility of side effects, habituation, even addiction, and withdrawal problems, and are unsuitable for young people. Try having a cup of "Tension Tamer", herbal tea, by Celestial Seasonings, (from supermarket tea, or health food aisles) or make some at home, and cool, then bottle, and drink as needed (I find it so strong tasting, that I need to drink it quickly, followed by something like fruit juice, to take away the taste, but others may find it more tolerable). C(h)amomile tea is a more palatable option. As with all herbal/green teas, use lemon/lime, and/or a little sweetener (NOT ARTIFICIAL!!!) but no cream, or milk. Xylitol, or Stevia is preferable, (health food stores) or fruit sugar (fructose, such as "Fruisana", from supermarket sugar aisles) or even a little honey, because these will reduce "sugar spikes". Valerian has also been recommended, but some people experience "valerian hangovers". Ensure you know how you react to it, before doing something potentially dangerous, like going out on the roads. The idea is to use the above like water wings, to provide initial, short term support, while you become proficient in the above techniques. Rewind your mistakes. Let's say you want to change an annoying laugh that you have, when you hear something funny, your old laugh will come out. You have to immediately think of what you wanted to happen, (i.e. your new, practiced laugh) and then do it immediately. It will be a little bit late, but slowly you will start to pair the two together, and eventually your brain will become conditioned to switch the first for the second. It usually takes 30 - 40 repetitions, to instill a new habit, with most people, so I estimate a similar amount, in the reprogramming process. Practice speaking considerably louder in front of the mirror, every morning. Read newspapers; get a free email account at Yahoo, (Your Yahoo section) and read Reuters, Oddly Enough: memorise a few. Talk about movies, events on, or coming soon, good places to go to, plans, etc.
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