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  • Posted By: mompeef
  • December 21, 2006
  • 11:50 PM

I'm a 47 y.o. woman. From my earliest days of sexual activity (in my teens), it has always been difficult for me to achieve orgasm,whether with a partner or by myself. I know sorts of stimulation I like, so that's not the issue. Now, as I enter into menopause, it has become practically impossible -- I have to have lengthy (perhaps 10 minutes or so) of direct clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm, and sometimes my hand (or my husband's hand) gets tired and we just give up! All the standard issue stuff about relaxation and setting the mood have not helped at all. We have a vibrator, but I don't particularly like relying on a machine, and it STILL takes me forever. I have to concentrate intensely on my own sensations; otherwise, I just don't feel much and I might as well be rubbing my elbow! I am tired of orgasm being such HARD WORK, so sometimes I just fake it so that my husband doesn't feel like he's failed me somehow. What could be causing my seeming lack of normal sensitivity in a (usually) very sensitive area??

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