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please help with trichotillomania

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  • Posted By: preci0us
  • March 20, 2008
  • 04:37 AM

anyone have any info about this disorder please!!! just learned about it:confused::confused::confused:

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  • im a bit embarrassed to admit it (as i have so many different problems going, that it must seem to some i make things up).. but i had that issue when i was a teen (maybe younger?? I cant remember when it started). When I was a teen, I used to pull my hair out (esp under stress).. at the sides of my head (just the under side of my hair). In my own case, i'd do it just usually one hair at a time (sometimes several).. and twirl the hair around my finger and then just rip it out. No one ever noticed my thinning hair spots as I didnt have a bad case of it and could hide it. (As i also have borderline personality disorder (BPD).. i did recently have an eposide of hair pulling with that..just cause my partner didnt like my new haircut in which i got very upset then and ended up pulling large chunks of it out, (which were actually noticable in the end, my hair was all thin on top).. but this eposide wasnt like my childhood ones, as in that case I didnt bother to hide it and ripped the hair out from the top of my head.. purely on that occassion caused by my BPD, so it wasnt really like an eposide of the trichotillomania but rather caused by just the hair not being liked event. So I wont even count that incident as a new incident of trichotillomania which feels different and happened in a different way, when I used to do it). I did outgrow trichotillomania (thou from what i've read in the past about it.. most dont??). I think I remember stopping myself from doing it over time.. by fighting to urge to do it and stopping myself as soon as I realised I was doing. It was like a real habit for me to do, so was a real effort to stop and took time (maybe a couple of years to stop myself completely from doing it).
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  • thank you for replying. ive started this problem when i was 16 or 17 n im now 19 and its just getting worse i dont even realize im doing it most of the time
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  • thank you for replying. ive started this problem when i was 16 or 17 n im now 19 and its just getting worse i dont even realize im doing it most of the time i can remember doing it a lot at 12/13 yrs old (maybe often daily..Im 37 yrs old now so that was some time ago), (fortunately I have extremely thick and a lot of hair..and usually only took one strand out at a time) and yeah.. it becomes like a habit and one can be doing it without realising it. From what I've read in the past about this problem..some take meds for it, (in my case I never did, I didnt even know that the hair pulling is an illness until a few years ago). I also havent come across others who have stopped doing it themselves without therapy etc. But I strongly suggest to do what I did, to try to stop and take other courses of action if it's worsening and you arent able to improve things at all. Realise thou that entiring stopping it.. certainly isnt an over night process. This may sound dumb but I think I remember slapping my own hand hard and telling myself "no!".. every time I caught myself doing it. (trying to disapline myself not too, it was frustrating). As i said it took me a LONG TIME and a lot of effort to break the habit. Often I'd catch myself doing it.. only to go finding myself doing it again, only minutes later. (oh man, this is all bringing back memories). Also if you have certain things that trigger it off more, become aware of them. Treat it like a war.. and you are in battle to stop yourself from doing this behaviour.. keep guard..................... I still do the twist the hair about the finger thing but nowdays with a lot of hair instead of one hair (one hair may be too tempting still for me).. esp if im nervous or even if im just thinking deeply.. but I just dont pull the actual hair out now.
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  • will my boyfriend always catches me doing it and slaps my hand and says no! i have been trying to stop too im going to try harder i didnt think it was an illness untill a few days ago actually i just thought it was a nervous rection or something along those lines
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  • will my boyfriend always catches me doing it and slaps my hand and says no! i have been trying to stop too im going to try harder i didnt think it was an illness untill a few days ago actually i just thought it was a nervous rection or something along those lines It can be a nervous reaction.. but one I'd say that certainly becomes a habit too. lol funny that your boyfriend does that.. maybe get him to slap your hand even harder when you are doing it (even if it slaps you in the head) lol. I had a boyfriend who once warned me that he'd slap my face, if I kept on forgetting to look out for cars when I entered my street. I had an aweful habit of just looking one way for them only..so he feared I'd end up getting hit one day.Then one day I had him in the car and he did just that... slapped me in the face for not looking the other way to see if a car was coming.. it hurt .. and completely shocked me at the time as I'd never expected him to really carry out his threat! but funnily.. I NEVER forgot to look out for cars again.. the incident stuck in my mind as I'd get to that corner and then suddenly think about how I was slapped. A sure reminder. Maybe get a photo off from online of someone with severe trichotillomania and put it on your fridge or somewhere you are going to see it often.. to keep reminding you just how bad ones hair can end up looking. That almost bald look or the wispy hair look..just isnt too great on a female. Keep reminding yourself that you do not want your hair to look like that. (enlist all your friends help too if need be.. to point out to you, whenever you are doing it... but learning self awareness of the habit is the key). best luck with it.
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  • Im going to take back something in said in my other post to you as I just saw your other post on the board, which refered to your eyebrows and eyelashes and it being those which you pull out. Dont get your boyfriend to hit your hand while you are doing it, if you are pulling your eyebrows or eyelashes .. (saying this for the obvious reason as you may end up getting yourself in the eye). With my own issue it was just the hair on my head I pulled.. but I assume the other advice i said would still hold .
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  • will my boyfriend always catches me doing it and slaps my hand and says no! i have been trying to stop too im going to try harder i didnt think it was an illness untill a few days ago actually i just thought it was a nervous rection or something along those linesThere's a great website for this called:stoppickingonme.com or stop picking on me . comIt's a site with very supportive people who are dealing with similar things themselves.I used to pull my hair out too. Although, I was picky about it. They had to be certain hairs. I have fairly fine hair and found all these hairs which were rough feeling. I'd only pull those out.
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