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My husband refuses to eat

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • January 5, 2007
  • 04:10 AM

Anything but unhealthy foods. He is 26 years old, and is a very good man. Everyone has flaws and his biggest one is he REFUSES to eat healthily, especially vegetables. I have probably named every single vegetable there is, and he hates it and will not eat it (cooked or uncooked), the only vegetable he likes is corn on the cob :/ Sometimes I feel like I am dealing with a child. Sorry to get a little personal, but I told him that I cannot have/raise a child with him with the eating habits he has. I want to raise a child who eats healthy foods, and that will be very hard if not impossible when my husband eats only junk food. Some of the foods he eats every day are: cheeseburgers, ice cream, candy, chips; you name it that IS his diet. He will eat fruit, and we have it in the fridge but when he's rummaging around in the fridge he'll go for the ice cream before he grabs an apple or orange. His grains include pasta, bread on his cheeseburger, and cereal (which is drown in sugar might I add). By looking at him you'd think he's in great shape, not much fat on his body at all. But I'm worried about his eating habits causing health problems for him in the future, possibly the near future! I even suggested to him maybe putting a bunch of vegetables in a blender and blending them up into a shake then having him plug his nose and gulp it down and get it over with. Nope. I understand its his life, his body, he can do whatever he wishes, but I wish he'd understand that nutrition is so very important, especially if you want to be strong and healthy and live a long good life. A good diet will greatly increase your chances of having a long life. I want to help him, I love him. Even his mother cries to me and worries about him. I don't know how to help him, and I don't know what to do.

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  • Stay with him and get mentally ready for his "health" to deteriorate or for him to die suddenly. Sometimes we love people who hurt themselves. I do not judge people with addictions- but they have to try to get a tiny break and advocate for themselves. It does not matter how hard it is, he has to try to listen to the reasons why he is hurting himself and try to internalize them, even if he does not take an immediate course of action. This is the natural instinct of survival- if you want to live you fight, even when the fight is internal.If he does not have that instinct- you don't want to have children with him- trust me.Only if he acknowledges his problem- there is hope he might change.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • January 5, 2007
    • 04:28 AM
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  • Have his cholesterol level checked. When it turns out to be 250 (dare I say we hope it is?), maybe it'll scare him into growing up!
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • January 5, 2007
    • 04:35 AM
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  • It will probably take a huge scare for him to change his ways. Many people are like that. Until they are faced with a health crisis, they won't change. But, your husband is human and will fear his death when he loses his health one day (it's a matter of when, not if) and as long as he survives it, it could be the turning point you are longing for.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • December 2, 2008
    • 08:40 PM
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