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My girlfriend's periods.... should I be worried?

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  • Posted By: gimmeanr
  • February 24, 2010
  • 03:16 AM

Hi I'm wondering if someoen can help me. I know nothin about womens' medicine and I'm concerned about my girlfriend's periods because I'm seriously considering her as a wife one day. If she's subfertile though I need to know now...

Basically, what is normal for a girl's periods?

I'm 30 and quite healthy.

She's 25 and quite healthy. Caucasian. BMI around 21, in good shape. Virgin. No acne/obvious hirsutism. Not on any meds.

What worries me is that when I ask about her periods she isn't realy sure. So far what I've gleaned is this:

early years (teens) - had irregular periods so was put on the pill
18 - came off the pill
18-19ish - thinks her periods were kind of on and off...
19-23 - had kind of irregular periods... she said maybe she'd have 8 per year
23-25 - claims has been having them pretty much monthly with no probs.. but doesn't give a definite cycle length.
2 days ago - told me she hsn't had her period yet (even though it's been 6 weeks!!!)

Other info: periods apparently getting lighter but more painful in last 6 motnhs.
Plus she's started new (possibly stressful) job as an accountant in the last 6 weeks.

Im totally lost here.... should I be concerned abotu PCOS? If it is PCOS is it a big fertility issue or not really considering she does have periods of some sort most of the time and is of slim build?

Is this all just slow readjustment since coming off the pill?

Am I just being silly and this is just a case of slightly irregular periods that aren't much to worry about i.e. is the above story kind of normal ... girls missing periods here and there and being sort-of regular, or not really having muh of an idea.

I dunno really... I always thought they shouldhave pretty stable cycles and be really knowledgable about them, not "oh i don't really know, they seem to have been monthly for the last 2 years and it just so happens i've gone 6 weeks without"!!!

I realy like her but am concerned about this problem. It woul be a deal breaker if she were infertile or subfertile.

Id really appreciate any info/help.advice

:(

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  • have you considered that she may be pregnant? this does not sound like love, by the way.
    Monsterlove 2921 Replies
    • February 24, 2010
    • 04:14 AM
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  • have you considered that she may be pregnant? Good thought but I should have said we're both virgins.
    gimmeanr 2 Replies
    • February 24, 2010
    • 11:59 PM
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  • If her being "subfertile" is a deal breaker for you than you're the one with the issues! That being said, it sounds like it could be PCOS to me. Obesity, hirutism, etc. are not always present. I have PCOS with a BMI of around 19, my husband and I also have two beautiful children with the help of Clomid, just something to think about.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • February 27, 2010
    • 06:15 AM
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  • Hi I'm wondering if someoen can help me. I know nothin about womens' medicine and I'm concerned about my girlfriend's periods because I'm seriously considering her as a wife one day. If she's subfertile though I need to know now... Basically, what is normal for a girl's periods? I'm 30 and quite healthy. She's 25 and quite healthy. Caucasian. BMI around 21, in good shape. Virgin. No acne/obvious hirsutism. Not on any meds. What worries me is that when I ask about her periods she isn't realy sure. So far what I've gleaned is this: early years (teens) - had irregular periods so was put on the pill18 - came off the pill18-19ish - thinks her periods were kind of on and off...19-23 - had kind of irregular periods... she said maybe she'd have 8 per year23-25 - claims has been having them pretty much monthly with no probs.. but doesn't give a definite cycle length.2 days ago - told me she hsn't had her period yet (even though it's been 6 weeks!!!) Other info: periods apparently getting lighter but more painful in last 6 motnhs.Plus she's started new (possibly stressful) job as an accountant in the last 6 weeks. Im totally lost here.... should I be concerned abotu PCOS? If it is PCOS is it a big fertility issue or not really considering she does have periods of some sort most of the time and is of slim build? Is this all just slow readjustment since coming off the pill? Am I just being silly and this is just a case of slightly irregular periods that aren't much to worry about i.e. is the above story kind of normal ... girls missing periods here and there and being sort-of regular, or not really having muh of an idea. I dunno really... I always thought they shouldhave pretty stable cycles and be really knowledgable about them, not "oh i don't really know, they seem to have been monthly for the last 2 years and it just so happens i've gone 6 weeks without"!!! I realy like her but am concerned about this problem. It woul be a deal breaker if she were infertile or subfertile. Id really appreciate any info/help.advice :( I think you saying this could be a deal breaker is more important than if she is able to have children or not. Marriage has lots of ups and downs and if her not being able to give birth makes you think about not staying with her, then you obviously have other issues. When you really love someone a problem is something you two see as a "We will get thru this"!! Maybe your infertile??? Have you had your sperm checked?? I mean really get over this and mature before you ever marry!!
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • February 28, 2010
    • 09:34 PM
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  • Give the guy a break at least he is being honest and asking for medical help not psychiatric emotional help. People break off relationships for much smaller reasons. Maybe he is the last lineage in his family and would like to continue his family legacy?!!!We don’t know his circumstances so let’s not be so quick to judge. Give a guy some credit for being upfront and honest about how he feels.
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