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My boy hurts his fingers untill they bleed. Please Help me.

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  • Posted By: joaquina
  • February 26, 2009
  • 04:27 PM

Dear friends,
I have a 5 year old son, who has passed through many changes: we have moved to a new country, I have a baby, a girl(5 months old). He has to use glasses and the problems that I am having with my child are:
He hits his school mates.
He hurts his fingers with his hands until they start to bleed
He is in a bad mood.
I treat him with all the patience I can have. The teachers have told me that he is very intelligent but he has problems with his thick power capacity (he can not controll his strength, he is a big boy for his age).
I am very worried, we are going to be in touch with a psicologist (my husband and I), but I am very worried about his fingers they are all wounded and injured.
Thank you so much for your help, and God bless you all.



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  • Children do act out when routine changes. My daughter was the only child for 4 years. Once I had my son, she started acting out by biting his fingers, hitting, crying etc. I realized that my sole attention was not just on her anymore. I started to do little thiings that just her and I would do ie. Make paper dolls, color, paint. The baby was not involved. Maybe making him more comfortable in his surroundings. Being in a new country is also a traumatic event. I think if you give him a familiar, comforting environment, that should help. For example maybe hang posters of his previous home, or do things that remind him of those special times. Then eventually he'll adjust. I think children feel really apprehensive if their parents do. So...if you are not comfortable, then he'll feel that way too. So try to make adjustments for yourself, because I am sure it's hard for the entire family. Good Luck
    Carrlexzi 36 Replies
    • February 28, 2009
    • 08:24 PM
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  • Dear Carrlexzi, Thank you so much for your advice. Everything so have said is true. I miss my country and my family, but I undertand that my husband has been moved to a better job, but my boy does not. I am going to put some posters of my country and put in practrice what you so kindly have told me.Again thank you and God bless you and your family. Regards, Joaquina
    joaquina 8 Replies
    • February 28, 2009
    • 09:59 PM
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  • Does your son feel the pain in his fingers?Does he know that what he's doing is wrong?
    richard wayne2b 1232 Replies Flag this Response
  • DearRichard Yes, he knows that what he is doing is wrong. Also I have promised him things he likes if he stops doing this. First he started to do it when he supposed I was not looking at him, but now he does it in front of me. At the moment I say him to stop it, he stops, but after some minutes he starts again. Thank you for asking. Regards, Joaquina
    joaquina 8 Replies Flag this Response
  • You didn't tell me if he feels the pain.
    richard wayne2b 1232 Replies Flag this Response
  • Dear Richard,Thank you for your question. Yes, he realices what he is doing, because que comes to me telling that he has hurt his fingers, that he is bleeding and that this hursts him. Then I speak to him and I explain that what he is doing is wrong, but he only listens to me.
    joaquina 8 Replies Flag this Response
  • My five year old grandson has also started biting the ends of his fingers until they bleed. We do not know what to do. He is a happy boy with no worries, so we do not know why he is doing this.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies Flag this Response
  • There is such thing as sensory "impairment".This maight be it. Ask his pediatrician for refferal to sensory therapy (usually occupational or physical therapist, depending in what state you are, will work with your boy to help him stop this). It's called early intervention, i think.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies Flag this Response
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