One my friend who studies medicine really upset me few days ago. He said that my baby probably had hypoxia, considering information from my delivery and that is why my baby doesn't speak. I tried to find info here on internet, but I don't know enough about medicine to find it. And to ask a health care provider about that here in Serbia, well that is different story.
My baby boy is 21 months old. He doesn't speak and he doesn't understand me.
He speaks all the time, but he speaks his own language. He use 30 or so words that don't have any sense. He now understands words like: Come and No and his name&nickname.
When he wants something he grabs my hand and shows me what he wants or if he is thirsty or hungry for example he grabs his bottle or some food from the table, but he never says: Thirsty, juice, water, etc.
From the other hand I noticed that he uses few english words (I watch TV program in english or listen music, and we live in Serbia) but those words doesn't have any meanings.
His skills are: He eats solid food alone, he knows to drink from the glass, He knows (or better said he knew, he stopped doing that when he was 17 months old) to show his eyes, his palm, his head on demand.
He can recognize a lot of stuffs, like his favorite food, or juice by color or package, mobile phones, toys...
He likes to sit down and "read" colorful books or magazines, page by page.
He can run, he walks since he was 12 months old, he can climb upstairs, he climbs everywhere, he knows to turn on and off every machine in house, he knows to open doors, elevator, how to use key.
When he doesn't like some song he hits me :)
He builds towers, for months he knows to put for example triangle in triangle shaped hole. When I want him to kiss, I just put my check and most of the time he does that...
He laughs a lot and smiles to everyone. He adore people and he is not afraid of anybody. He gives hugs to almost everyone.
BUT HE DOESNT KNOW TO SAY: MOM, DAD! And it breaks my heart.
I am young and healthy. Every test during pregnancy turned out excellent, every ultrasound check turned out also OK. Blood tests, double test, sugar levels, oxygen flow... You name it, I did it. Blood pressure always was between 110-130/70-80. But doctor gave me from 24 until 36 week verapamil and gynipral, to stop contractions.
Later I heard that I should not use that drugs for that long periode of time. Is that true?
Baby was normal height, weight and head size at the birth.
But he was little hypotonic. Doctors said because epidural, verapamil and gynipral. We did later exercises and after 4 weeks everything was normal. At least doctors said that.
His score at birth was 10/10. But to almost every baby here in Serbia they give that score. Why, google about situation in Serbian maternity units.
Later my baby was never ill, and his height and weight is even more than average.
And about delivery.
My delivery was induced with drugs and I had epidural. For no reason, I was delivered in 39. week, because doctor didn't have much to do that day. I was only 3cm open.
Then in one moment during birth, baby's heart rates slowed really bad. After almost half an hour doctor rushed in, he started to pull me left and right, and heart rates increased. And that was it.
Whole delivery, whole procedure along with giving me drugs etc lasted little more than 3 hours.
Did the doctor really f... up? Did my baby have hypoxia? Maybe drugs during pregnancy (gynipral and verapamil)? Is that reason for speech delay? Or is something else? If is, what could it be? Is my kid normal, average one?
I know I wrote a lot, but in Serbia parents have to give bribe to doctors to get any information. And I am running out of money, although I have health insurance. We are going to see speech specialist, I hope soon. It is not up to me. If not, I will have to give bribe again to get stupid appointment.
Please any help is needed.