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Coldness, mood swings, weight loss and more

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  • Posted By: GreyKitten
  • May 8, 2008
  • 00:23 PM

Hello,
I'm really worried about my husband. He's always been prone to bouts of depression and mood swings but lately there seem to be more and more things going wrong.

He's always cold, yesterday it was 25 degrees F and when I got home from work he had on a thick fleece, a woolly hat and the central heating on maximum!! It was unbearably hot but he still felt cold. However, despite feeling cold in himself his skin and body are very hot, he really radiates heat. He eats quite a lot of food and has a couple of pints of Guinness a day but he doesn't put on any weight, in fact he seems to be losing it.

Over the last year he's also experienced a certain amount of bowel urgency (especially first thing in the morning) and what appears to be quite a lot of rectal bleeding (possibly piles).

He's missing a lot of work (self-employed) - sometimes months at a time, sitting at home and saying he's 'not feeling well'. A lot of upset stomachs and just general malaise and lethargy. He doesn't sleep well.

When he's OK he's great - fun, lively, laughing, working - normal! - but this is usually only for a week or two then there will be a long period of feeling unwell.

He refuses to go to the doctor. I'm worried sick about him. Does anyone have any idea as to what could be the problem???????

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  • It sounds very much like thryoid problem perhaps or autoimmune thyriod disease either Graves Disease or Hashimotos....with autoimmune diseases there can be periods of remission and surges of symptoms and that may account for his periods of wellness and then sickness..... he need to have a blood test for this. I had similar symptoms and I had Graves disease...He needs to be tested for the 1. the antibodies for Graves and Hashimotos 2. and blood work for Ft4, Ft3, and TSH by good GP or Endocrinologist. It can and does effect mood, bowls, body temperature and a host of other things...lots of symptoms....he needs to be checked...he can be on meds and feeling much better if it is his thryoid. Oh, also it is not as common among men, so the doct may not go for this test as first route, but it is not like it is uncommon either....insist if you have to....he may need other blood work as well in case it is not his thryoid. Joan
    Joan5555 316 Replies Flag this Response
  • He needs a doc. If he is not willing to see a western doc, will he consider trying a Doctor of Oriental Medicine? He needs lots of testing done - blood, stool, thyroid, etc...could be many different things... In Traditional Chinese Medicine he is experiencing false cold symptoms...this is the sensation of feeling cold, when his actual body temp is warm...have you checked his temp? Does he have any sweating? Night sweats? Does he smoke or do drugs? Any past drug history?DOM
    acuann 3080 Replies Flag this Response
  • He eats quite a lot of food and has a couple of pints of Guinness a day but he doesn't put on any weight, in fact he seems to be losing it. and what appears to be quite a lot of rectal bleeding (possibly piles). That can be a dangerous symptom to ignore and one which he should at least get a doctor to check him out over. Many years ago, I lost my great grandmother due to bowel cancer.. and bleeding (even small amounts) can be one of first symtpoms (and weight loss). Bowel cancer is the third most common cause of cancer in men! (It probably is piles.. but he really should make sure!) It also sounds as if he has got depression. Depression can general malaise and lethargy, mood swings, sleeping issues and even stomach upsets in some. Depressed people, may feel the cold more. Left untreated, depression can get worst and worst. You need to get him to speak to a doctor even if you call in a locum to come and see him in his home. However, despite feeling cold in himself his skin and body are very hot, he really radiates heat. Many men seem to radiate heat. Womens temps are usually slightly below a guys temp (esp before we ovulate).. so hence men may feel a bit warmer than us. Did you actually take his temp to see if he was really a fever???? or did you just feel him? (if he's all rugged up and you are not.. in that case he probably will also feel warmer than you if you just feel him). You really need to take his temp. If he's actually running temps.. then it must be something other than depression and piles.
    taniaaust1 2267 Replies Flag this Response
  • Thank you so much for your replies. I told him how worried I am about him and I've just showed him the post and your kind answers. He has agreed to see the Doctor next week and he has agreed that I can go with him, so I can be sure that he's telling the doc everything. If and when we find out what it is I'll post on here to let you know, but once again thank you, you've helped more than you can possibly know.
    GreyKitten 5 Replies Flag this Response
  • Thank you so much for your replies. I told him how worried I am about him and I've just showed him the post and your kind answers. He has agreed to see the Doctor next week and he has agreed that I can go with him, so I can be sure that he's telling the doc everything. If and when we find out what it is I'll post on here to let you know, but once again thank you, you've helped more than you can possibly know. That is great - please keep up posted on what the doc says!Best wishesDOM
    acuann 3080 Replies Flag this Response
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