My 60 year old brother has been a closet drinker for 25+years. He has recently been in the hospital, and is currently in the nursing home because doctors have been draining 10 - 12 liters of liquid from his stomach every week. He has been mean and nasty to everyone for many years, and this is still continuing. My problem is that he has told all of his doctors that they cannot talk to any of his family members about his condition. Because of HIPA laws, we cannot get any information from medical personnel, so we do not know how close to the end stages of liver disease we are. I have read ALOT about psorosis of the liver, and I realize that his time on this earth is coming to a close. We have brothers and sisters that live out of country, and are planning a trip at Thanksgiving (4 months) .
My question is, what is the realistic time frame fro my brother -- should we be calling family members home before Thanksgiving, or will he realistically have more time with us? Do we start funeral preparations? I love my brother, and cannot get any information from medical staff, so I am at a loss ... am I premature with preparations? Do I prepare our 85 year old mother for the closure process ? ANY help, or even a realistic time frame for life on earth would be appreciated!!! Thanks!