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Anxiety Pains And Losing Erections?

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • January 13, 2009
  • 02:57 AM

Hi,

For the last 7 months i have suffered anxiety problems. Before, i never had any problem with my mental state. But then i had a few problems in my life, nothing big, but just all at the same time, which made it seem big. Since then i have suffered real anxiety problems. Massive "weighty" feelings in my chest and suffering from panick attacks over silly things like worrying about what to do when im out or worrying about when people are going in and going to leave me. I can really feel how mental it is and i feel i have to halfs to my brain, one battling the other constantly. if anyone can give me any advice apart from trying to calm down or anything along the lines of what people who may not have experienced what im feeling, please give me some advice because i would be so greatfull.

And the second thing is, i sort of have an anger problem. Again not a big anger problem just using the term i keep getting told from others. I have recently, well for the last 7 months (when this all started) not lost my temper or acted the way i used to because that was what got me here in the first place. But i have two questions. One, because im not acting the same or letting out my anger how i used to, im just keeping it in and bottling it up, i know myself and i know that if i do this soon i will explode and it will get worse, but because im bottling it up is this got anything to do with the anxiety pains i have been suffering from? I mean my brain and body are not used to me like this so is this there way of saying find another route? The other question is, occasionally, recently, i have lost my erection a few times to one girl whilst she was sucking my penis. i would like to know if this may have anything to do with all of the above, as the times it has happened inside i know i have been rather wound up.

It would be a great help is someone could give me some advice thank you.

Lazy

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  • I'd say you are having anxiety attacks and have anxiety. It dont sound like full blown panic attacks at all (i used to get panic attacks). Im no psychologist but i do think that bottling your anger up rather than expressing in the way you've previously been used to dealing with your emotions, could end up affecting one subconsciously and hence cause other issues eg anxiety. It sounds as if you need to learn better ways to deal with your emotions. I suggest maybe a couple of sessions with a psychologist could help. Subconscious worries if you are bottling things I'd think could ones sexual function and it could be worries that are unrelated to sex. That issue is one basically all guys get at some point or another (an erection loss).. and i dont think you should worry about it at this point if it's not happening much. (it's normal to happen occassionally!)
    taniaaust1 2267 Replies
    • January 13, 2009
    • 07:41 AM
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  • Thank you very much just having someone explain to me actually helps quite a lot. the relief i felt just from readin a response to what I have written was quite nice. And what you have written helps a lot aswel. Thanks Again, im contemplating seeing someone but i have to believe in myself i need to first and that seems to be hard for me because it kinda makes me feel weak. But i shall consider it. And i wouldn't say i have a drug problem at all. But i do take some drugs mainly coke now but not like as an addiction. i believe it is that, that didnt help the anxiety at all. i used to smoke a lot of weed because it was and still is a massive part of my social, but the first real pain in my chest happened after i gave up for two weeks to prove to people and also i started getting pains. i started again didnt have much and it sent my chest doolally, so bad i called an ambulance. i dont smoke anymore but if you or others could let me know if this has been experienced by anyone else and the easiest way to stop replacing the smoking with another drug just to feel better (in a way, im not an addict) and to feel i have a social life again that would help. a tough one to reply to as its everyones own preference i know, and even im not sure what the question im asking is. im just feeling a little messed up but considerably better than some months ago. It all started when i lost my girlfriend and then was made redundant and also my car had to get scrapped all in the same week and ever since ive been finding it hard to get back on my feet. Im only 21. Thank you
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • January 13, 2009
    • 00:31 PM
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  • with my anxiety I have learned many different ways to ease the overwhelming feelings. I have personally found that listening to calming music sooths me. it is all about finding a way to sooth that works for you. deep breathing exercises can work. yoga and stretching works for me, but it wont exactly take away anxiety. i reciently bought a book called the mindfullness and acceptance of anxiety workbook. workbooks for different types of anxiety whether it be panic attack disorder, phobias, or w/e else. the work books help by giving exercises on how to control heart rate and breathing. it teaches how to maintain a normal life. while it cant make it disappear, it will help you put it in it's place as a part of life and not letting it control your life.
    JSant14 9 Replies
    • January 13, 2009
    • 04:14 PM
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  • Hi, For the last 7 months i have suffered anxiety problems. Before, i never had any problem with my mental state. But then i had a few problems in my life, nothing big, but just all at the same time, which made it seem big. Since then i have suffered real anxiety problems. Massive "weighty" feelings in my chest and suffering from panick attacks over silly things like worrying about what to do when im out or worrying about when people are going in and going to leave me. I can really feel how mental it is and i feel i have to halfs to my brain, one battling the other constantly. if anyone can give me any advice apart from trying to calm down or anything along the lines of what people who may not have experienced what im feeling, please give me some advice because i would be so greatfull. And the second thing is, i sort of have an anger problem. Again not a big anger problem just using the term i keep getting told from others. I have recently, well for the last 7 months (when this all started) not lost my temper or acted the way i used to because that was what got me here in the first place. But i have two questions. One, because im not acting the same or letting out my anger how i used to, im just keeping it in and bottling it up, i know myself and i know that if i do this soon i will explode and it will get worse, but because im bottling it up is this got anything to do with the anxiety pains i have been suffering from? I mean my brain and body are not used to me like this so is this there way of saying find another route? The other question is, occasionally, recently, i have lost my erection a few times to one girl whilst she was sucking my penis. i would like to know if this may have anything to do with all of the above, as the times it has happened inside i know i have been rather wound up. It would be a great help is someone could give me some advice thank you. Lazy Hi, I have been suffering fom anxiety attacks for many years now without realising they were anxiety attacks. Mine are rather sever and come suddnly with feeling of extream nausea, fatigue, dry mouth, extream resslessness and very sever depression. All these symptoms stay for few days up to week or two sometimes. As days go by the symptoms start to disapear untill im back to normal. Although i dont know if your attacks are as sever, during my time dealing with this problem i learned few things that helped me and maybe they could help you also. For start i wouldnt worry about the erection problem, as long as its not a long term thing. I have same problem , during these attacks im not interested in sex, this by no means mean that i cant get erection or have problem with my sex organ. Whats happeneing is that your brain is focusing on the anxiety part and other things are not so important. So unless you havinf these problems for long periodes of time, then i wouldnt worry about it. For the attacks themselves, i can give u some advice.1- Sport, it sounds obvious but it really helps, it will help also with ur anger issues, sport not only make u feel healthy which is important, it also help ur mind stay healthy. During the attacks themselves sports helps ur mind focus on something else apart from the anxiety problem, allows your body to get out some of those anxiety feelings and also tire ur body which is very important as it will allow you to sleep , which in turn is extreamly important during anxiety attacks. (as during the attacks ur nerves and brain is too active and you dont feel u can sleep) 2-Dont be alone. I dont know if you have partner or your near close people, but dont deal with it on your own, it helps a lot to have someone near you that can help you throught the attack, simply being near people distracts your mind from the whole attack even its for while. 3- Talk, but dont talk too much ....it does help talking about what you think and feeling during these attacks, talking to someone close or someone who listens...however talking too much about the problem, can have the opposit effects and only extend your attack periode and the depression that comes with it . 4-Find some activity that you enjoy doing or like to do and do it, during these attacks especially if depression comes with it , the nukber of activities that you would be interested in doing will be reduced dramatically, but there is always at least one thing that would allow your brain to be distracted for a while. 5- Surround yourself with positivity, being around depressive people, or people who only tell you that you have a problem , or being around negative news, ect ect will all influence on you and make you feel worst. so during these attacks, try to avoid watching news , being near sick people , being near negative people ect. try to only see and talk and listen to positive things. 6- Find what starts these attacks. I know after having these attacks for a while, you start having them for very simple reasons, howevere i believe there is always a MAIN reason that started it all. When you find it try to change it or solve it , this will help very much to cut the number of attacks. For me the attacks started and were related to my health, i had a health problem which wasnt diagnosed and i was feeling always sick and helpless not knowing what was the problem or how i could treat it or deal with it. As results whenever i felt unwell , i started getting these attacks at same time. After that these attacks started happening for other reasons, even more silly things. So if you solve the main problem it can help you in long term. 7- Change something in your life. Sometimes we live the same life for long time, and we think its fine and nothing is stressing us or causing harm, but its not true. Althought i had these attacks for many years now, i noticed the number of these attacks differe depending on life style i have. I had a periode of 3 months where i though i was living stress free life and didnt worry about anything , but i had 5 -6 attacks in that periode. However after that i went for a holiday for a week, and changed few things in my life, where i live , my job, and i didnt have any attacks for 6 months. 8- Try to relax as much as possible, again thats pretty much an abvious things but usually we dont really relax even we think we do . simple things like relaxing tea or herbs, baths , massages , listening to relaxing music, yoga ect can make lots of difference not only during the attacks but also help prevent them. I hope at least some of these points will help you . wish you all the best.
    poutchi 10 Replies
    • January 14, 2009
    • 07:00 AM
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