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Worried about friend

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  • Posted By: gorillita
  • December 9, 2006
  • 01:51 AM

A dear friend appears to be quite ill. He has sought medical help, but his doctor has not been able to find what's wrong with him. He awaiting the results of yet another round of blood and urine tests. His symptoms include fatigue, total lack of energy, spaciness, "hot flashes" (but not an actual fever, and no sweat) alternating with a very clammy forehead (but not actual chills), a grayness of color, eyes appearing to recess deeply into their sockets and just feeling yucky (that's a medical term!). He is very low key, not talkative and appears a little out of it. I asked him if he was depressed (I'm a psychologist), and he said only because he can't beat this medical condition. I have known him awhile, and he was a happy, teasing, healthy (ex-SWAT cop who still does his full work-out every day), rode his Harley (which he doesn't feel safe doing now), active with a loving wife and kids and rewarding job - definitely not depressed. He has had this condition for about 6 weeks, and it seems to worsen a little daily. Lay people keep telling him it's probably some virus that will work itself out "eventually," which doesn't really help. Any ideas or suggestions that he and his doc might pursue? It is really scary being around him and watching him go downhill. He's about 50 years old, normally very fit with no known or past medical problems. Thanks . . .

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  • This could be many things, from cancer to HIV. The most you can do is put him in the hands of his doctor and hope for a swift result.
    eleven 55 Replies
    • December 13, 2006
    • 02:24 AM
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  • That could be practically most severe illnesses and he just needs to keep being tested for things. Hot flushes thou and the other symptoms could also be a sign of allergy or sensitivities to things, if so that may not be worked out for a long while (that's about the last thing most doctors will look into if ever). Best for him to do a lot of resting expecially if it is an unknown virus..as pushing oneself throu something like that one can end up keep getting worst and develop CFIDS (chronic fatigue immunity disfunction syndrome..also called CFS), Keeping positive about things getting better is important too.
    taniaaust1 2267 Replies
    • December 28, 2006
    • 03:54 AM
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  • Has your friend seen a cariologist, The grey pallor and other symptoms my be heart related.....good luck
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • February 8, 2007
    • 00:10 PM
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  • Greyness is a sign of cachexia, or wasting. It can be due to a lot of things, the first thing that comes to my mind though is cancer.
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