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Masturbation Issues

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • June 13, 2008
  • 10:15 PM

Hi, I think it's safe to say that I am addicted to masturbating (mostly do to online **********y). I have been doing it since I was 14 and I am 18 now. On and off throughout that time I have gone from once or twice a day to once a week. Currently though the frequency is about everyday. I have done alot of research and although it is embarassing, i really need some help. While researching I found that alot of people say it is good and there is nothing wrong with it but I want to stop now and don't think I can without some help. I have tried to stop but just can't alone. I want to make this a thing of the past and move on with my life. I have been wondering if there is any long term problems from masturbation? People say there is none but I would just like some confirmation of that. Does frequent ejaculation reduce sperm count? Also is there possiblity of erectile dysfunction? Zinc... would this cause a zinc deficeincy? I know this is long but i really need some help in stopping this addiction and problem. It has been hard for me to make myself do even this... But I feel it is long overdue.

Thanks to all who can shed some wisdom on this topic.

-Ashamed of what has become of me.

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  • Don't worry about it -- the majority of people in the world masturbate - even small children touch themselves. And I would imagine that most men do it at least a couple times a week if not more.There are NO health consequences. In the past, parents would tell kids they would go blind if they did it but that is untrue. No erectile dysfunction issues, no zinc loss and no reduction in sperm counts.That being said, if you want to stop, then just stop. There aren't any "programs" to help you stop - it is a matter of just deciding you want to. And if you reduce your ***n watching time - you will probably reduce your masturbation. You can also try picking up another hobby - something to get you out of room and out from in front of the computer. If you really want to reduce it, put the computer in a public room and take your door off the hinges -- no privacy no masturbation.Good luck
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  • Dont worry about it.. it isnt harmful and masturbation is a good stress reliever. If you had a partner and was having sex daily, getting daily sexual release by that.. would you then be worried about how much sex you were having with your partner?? Actually i know that many of my male friends.. tend to masturbate daily. You are making a big deal out of something completely normal. Maybe you should consider some counselling if you feel bad for what is entirely normal.
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  • Hi, I think it's safe to say that I am addicted to masturbating (mostly do to online **********y). I have been doing it since I was 14 and I am 18 now. On and off throughout that time I have gone from once or twice a day to once a week. Currently though the frequency is about everyday. I have done alot of research and although it is embarassing, i really need some help. While researching I found that alot of people say it is good and there is nothing wrong with it but I want to stop now and don't think I can without some help. I have tried to stop but just can't alone. I want to make this a thing of the past and move on with my life. I have been wondering if there is any long term problems from masturbation? People say there is none but I would just like some confirmation of that. Does frequent ejaculation reduce sperm count? Also is there possiblity of erectile dysfunction? Zinc... would this cause a zinc deficeincy? I know this is long but i really need some help in stopping this addiction and problem. It has been hard for me to make myself do even this... But I feel it is long overdue. Thanks to all who can shed some wisdom on this topic. -Ashamed of what has become of me.Anonymous123,There's three possible reasons you cite for worrying about your frequent masturbation, and that requires three different answers. Firstly, I feel your pain: like you, once a day was pretty normal for me when I was your age, and feeling pretty ashamed about it was also my problem.Regarding the physical consequences, you cite worries about zinc deficiencies, sperm counts and the long-term impacts on both. As far as I am aware, both from research and experience, there's no physical consequences to excessive self-stimulation. And nor should there really be. Afterall, we're not grasshoppers that eat partners, so it's safe to assume that several copulations a day is not abnormal. The body's pretty good in managing its vitamins, so unless you're aware you have a zinc absorbtion problem, I doubt that will be in issue. And sperm counts, well, ask fathers of sixteen children whether repeated ejaculations has slowed their ability to reproduce. In fact, if anything, the body of evidence seems to suggest sex has a therapeutic value, increasing our overall health. Famed sexologist, Dr Ruth, seemed pretty comfortable with the role of masturbation in normal human health. Though, in truth, most studies are about one-on-one sex, and do not often include masturbation. Still, even muted, I think it's safe to say physically you're not likely to be in any danger. (Well, assuming you're not engaging in some Hutchence-style masturbatory activities.)That leads me to, well, let's call them self-esteem consequences, and the fact that you use words like "addiction", "embarassing", "problem" and finally "ashamed". From this, it seems pretty clear to me that, despite the advice you're getting that there's nothing wrong with this activity, you don't feel comfortable with doing it. Well, despite our best intentions, we here cannot tell you what is right and wrong for you. This is a test for your evolving manhood, to decide what is right for you. What I will tell you is do not be a hypocrit - someone professing or believing wholeheartedly one thing but doing another. Hypocrits live short lives, my friend. If need be, seek out a counsellor.If you feel it is necessary to eradicate this from your life altogether, then let me tell you, you're on a hard road. Anonymous Amanda's "just stop" aside, which is good advice, I know, also being a guy, that an 18-year old's sex drive is like a freight train, and it seems impossible to stop. Not impossible, just difficult. You will develop very strong self-discipline skills out of this, or should I say, you will need to. You will need to avoid ***n' altogether, and you will need to "curb your enthusiasm". Don't put yourself in situations where your waters get boiled.Finally, I think this needs addressing from an emotional viewpoint. People here have helpfully pointed out that it's not a problem since everyone does it. Yet, let it be noted that there seems a tone that "everyone" is partners of other people. Solo sex, over the long term, can have a distorting effect upon you, particularly when coupled with **********y and the absense of relationships. Basically, it's selfish sex. It's too cheap and easy. It's easy to do, easy to access, and cheap. And consequently, it erodes the value of actual relationships even though they seem to be the point of the exercise. A few more years, perhaps a few difficult relationships, and you might find yourself staying-in on a Friday night masturbating to ***n rather than going out with friends looking for a girlfriend. Soon enough, you're addicted to ***n'. Without competing input to convince you otherwise, women become the objects of your pleasure, little more. We all know the stereotypes of the lonely 45-yo guy in his apartment surfing the 'net for ***n'. Well, stereotypes are based on facts.Furthermore, it's a fact that **********y addition is like drug addition: if you follow my drift, you start with ecstacy and evolve to harder and harder drugs. Don't believe me? Turn up to any number of sex addicts anonymous meetings where everyone seems to play the same tune: "I never would have done/looked at this a few years ago..."If you're already in relationships, have managed some long-term ones, perhaps the risks are less significant. I don't know. And I'll probably get panned for saying these "outlandish things", or accused or moralising against ***n'. C'est la vie.I can only speak from my experiences, what I've seen, what I've done.
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  • if you feel that your masturbation is excessive and is 'mostly due to internet ***n' then install a ***n blocker like net nanny on your system.IMHO unless you are choosing to masturbate instead of engaging in relationships you are probably fine just the way you are, I personally credit adolescent self stimulation as a reason why I have good endurance and holding ability during intercourse, practice practice practice...
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • August 18, 2008
    • 03:12 PM
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  • from my experience masturbation and watching online ***n are not good. just make yourself a deal and say you can masturbate but NOT watch any ***n. everybody is different and there definitely are people that have bad side effects from watching ***n and masturbating. it's one of these subjects that nobody really the real answers to, everybody is different, period. books have been written supporting both sides of the discussion. do what feels right, if you feel like masturbating go eat something instead, if you are fat, chew gum instead or find another habit. don't worry, there are a lot of people in the same boat as you. sadly some of them end up impotent, gross minded, lethargic, perverts with zits on chest etc..
    infinity 10 Replies
    • August 19, 2008
    • 07:36 PM
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  • Anonymous123, Finally, I think this needs addressing from an emotional viewpoint. People here have helpfully pointed out that it's not a problem since everyone does it. Yet, let it be noted that there seems a tone that "everyone" is partners of other people. lol...nope. im currently having sexual relations with a guy who has an extremely high sex drive that he seeks out MANY women to "play" with sexually or have sex with. He has a wife (who knows about this and is okay with it) and also has at least several other women a week (He's actually never short of women as he has a very caring nature and is great as he's always just as interested in our pleasure, even more so than his own). i have a high sex drive too.. so this works out well for me as he doesnt seem to ever tire of it. i know of many with very high sex drives and many people who are polygramous (have more than one partner... this suits many with high sex drive). Are we sex addicts?? i'd say no (thou i used to have sex 3-5 times a day) .. as what we do isnt affecting our lives negatively in any way at all (as long as protection is used etc etc.. hey it IS great exercise and a great way to connect with others as long as both are caring towards each other). One thing thou which is very important for anyone with a high sex drive.. is either a very understanding partner (who will allow masturbation or additional sex partners).. or one with a similar sex drive as oneself, then there will be no issues at all! i like polygramous relationships due to this reason (and yes i have been in a couple like that).
    taniaaust1 2267 Replies
    • August 20, 2008
    • 06:44 AM
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  • A teenager should not feel embarrassed that they have very strong sexual desires at times. For some teenagers, these feelings can be overwhelming strong, taking up all of their thoughts, and this is completely natural. As a teenager is experiencing huge hormonal changes, as their bodies are slowly turning from teenagers into men and women, this is quite natural.--------Nickysam reports
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    • September 2, 2008
    • 09:47 AM
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