Discussions By Condition: Female sexual conditions

no sexual drive or pleasure, ever

Posted In: Female sexual conditions 3 Replies
  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • April 18, 2010
  • 06:52 AM

I'm an 18-year-old virgin, and I have never had a sex drive. Ever. I am not and have never been attracted to either sex. The feeling of being "****y" is something I can only imagine, as I've never had any sort of desire to have sex. Even sexual pleasure seems beyond me. I've tried masturbating, but I've only felt pain (if I insert anything) and numbness if I try anything else. Masturbating for me is pretty much like touching any other part of my skin. No sensation.

I'm a pretty normal female in other aspects, though. I don't exercise often (I horseback ride 3x a week and that's it) and I'm 110 pounds on a 5'2'' frame. I went into puberty probably around age 10, and I've had my period regularly since at least age 11. I'm not depressed, and I've never been sexually abused.

I don't get it. I'm the only person I know who has ever been so disinterested and unaffected by sex, and no one ever believes me when I say I am truly just not interested (instead, people think I'm a lesbian in denial, haha, since I don't come off as very feminine). It's not that I dislike the idea of sex--it's just something I've never really felt compelled to do. Is there anything I can do about this? What might be the cause? I know asexuality is a recognized condition, but I'm not satisfied with just calling it incurable asexuality and doing nothing about it :/

Reply Flag this Discussion

3 Replies:

  • Asexuality = recognized, uncurable condition...... (????) I hope I am not misinterpreting your post, but asexuality as I have always known it IS A SEXUAL ORIENTATION. As far as I know and most medical/psychological professionsals are concerned there is no way to change your sexual orientation. If you need help and support I would highly recommend you create an account on AVEN (Asexual Visibility and Education Network) and write your thoughts out. If you generally want and need more information you can look up a number of videos on youtube and look at the powerpoint presentations here: http://www.slideshare.net/egad Based on doing a lot of searching there does not seem to be a strong legitimate basis for asexuality being caused by a medical or psychological condition (which is also true of other non-hetero sexual orientations in general). I hope this helps.
    Pink_Panther27 20 Replies Flag this Response
  • That's not abnormal, everyone is unique. Especially for women, its hard to have pleasure without the drive. If you want it incorporate coconut oil and white button mushrooms into your diet. This will mildy raise testosterone levels while blocking DHT(the hormone truly responsible for male characteristics). It will give you a sex drive.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • September 6, 2012
    • 04:22 AM
    • 0
    Flag this Response
  • Just try to manage a boyfriend and then I think condition will be changed.
    TAMallick 21 Replies Flag this Response
Thanks! A moderator will review your post and it will be live within the next 24 hours.