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Low Sex Drive, Painful Sex, HELP

Posted In: Female sexual conditions 5 Replies
  • Posted By: ashez52606
  • October 13, 2007
  • 04:47 AM

My husband and I have been having sex since 2003 and almost every time when we are done, I get this pain down there. Sometimes I can deal with it but other times, it's so bad I want to cry. I can't describe the pain...throbbing, pressure, all over, burning when I pee...what does that mean? Then, in 2005, I started taking the Depo birthcontrol shot and since then, my sex drive has been really low. We used to get together, maybe, 2-3 a week. Now, it's, maybe, 2-3 times a month...if that. It still hurts when we are done. Any suggestions?

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  • You really need to go to a nice doctor and tell her this. It could be structural, hormonal, tumors, infection (maybe you had something and never knew it???)....you owe this to yourself and your husband to find out what the problem is. Get a pap while you're at it.
    Monsterlove 2921 Replies
    • October 14, 2007
    • 07:30 AM
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  • sexually transmitted disease?
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • October 16, 2007
    • 00:59 AM
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  • HI, not sure if you have seen a doctor yet but it sounds like you could possibly have a Urinary Tract Infection (UTI). Would be good to get it checked out if you already haven't.
    lifespark 2 Replies
    • December 26, 2007
    • 07:02 AM
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  • To me, it sounds like your sex drive is really low and that means you're not producing much lubrication. When you don't have lubrication, then sex is very painful. I speak from experience. It burns because there is a lot of rubbing and friction and the urine burns because it is raw and sore. You should really try to invest in some serious lubrication and see if that helps.
    amann2 1 Replies
    • December 21, 2008
    • 07:08 PM
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  • Low sex drive in women http://www.mayoclinic.com/images/clear.gif ARTICLE SECTIONS http://www.mayoclinic.com/images/clear.gif DefinitionSymptoms CausesWhen to seek medical advice Tests and diagnosisTreatments and drugsCoping and support http://www.mayoclinic.com/images/clear.gif Causes A woman's desire for sex is based on a complex interaction of many components affecting intimacy, including physical well-being, emotional well-being, experiences, beliefs, lifestyle and current relationship. If you're experiencing problems in any of these areas, it can affect your sexual desire. In other words, there are dozens of reasons you may not be interested in sex: Physical causesA wide range of illnesses, physical changes and medications can cause a low sex drive, including: Sexual problems. If you experience pain during sex (dyspareunia) or inability to orgasm (anorgasmia), it can hamper your desire for sex.Medical diseases. Numerous nonsexual diseases can also affect desire for sex, including arthritis, cancer, diabetes, high blood pressure, coronary artery disease and neurological diseases. Infertility also can contribute to low sex drive, even after infertility treatments are over.Medications. Many prescription medications — including antidepressants, blood pressure medications and chemotherapy drugs — are notorious libido killers. Antihistamines also can zap your sex drive.Alcohol and drugs. A glass of wine may make you feel amorous, but too much alcohol can spoil your sex drive; the same is true of street drugs. Relationship issuesFor many women, emotional closeness is an essential prelude to sexual intimacy. So problems in your relationship can be a major factor in low sex drive. Decreased interest in sex is often a result of ongoing issues, such as: Lack of connection with your partnerUnresolved conflicts or fightsPoor communication of sexual needs and preferencesInfidelity or breach of trust
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • January 24, 2009
    • 00:32 PM
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