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im done im putting it in God's hand..please read

Posted In: Female sexual conditions 10 Replies
  • Posted By: pooh38635
  • June 22, 2008
  • 03:39 AM

hi about two months ago i doctor told me that i might have herpes...i was shocked and it really didnt register at first....i became depressed and i didnt want have any type of interaction with really anyone. my friends were there for me and constantly we prayed..i finally told my partner and he went and got tested but a month went by and we didnt talk so i didnt know if he was ignoring me or what...my sister thought it was a good idea for me to come stay with her to clear my mind so i took dat over..i felt better for a little while but i still cried frequently...my mom wanted me to get more medicine since i was going outta of town and i probably would be gone the whole summer.. everyone knows this type of medicine has to be called in my your doctor..so i tried calling her and they said she no longer worked there and was MIA..i thought this was strange so i had no way of getting any medicine i would have to see another doctor and be examed all over again..i really didnt wanna do that...i finally heard from my partner and we talk as if we never stopped talking. i brought it up and thats when he told me he got tested twice for everything and he came back negative this took me by surprise since mine came back positive....

i think it was God because alot of strange things happen beside the doctor disappearing and no one knowing where she was. first they didnt call me with my results and when i called them the nurse said everything was normal.i had to ask several times about the test then she said i was positive for hsv1.. many people have told me that comes from oral sex and i have never had that..i had just recently lost my virginity basically i was curious.. that wasnt my first time breaking out down there i had been breaking out for years right before my period.. i would tell my mom but she would do nothing...i would but grease on it or antibiotics and t would go away sometimes i would do nothing about it..i would get pains or bruises down there and i just kind of use it as a sign telling me when m period was coming... i have not tooken any more of that medicine since april and im fine no problems at all...everyone tells me that im ok and i would never really take them seriously because of the bug in my ear telling me i had it...my friend told me God puts people and things in your way to get you back on the right track or to guide you and i really believe that she was right....

I AM GENITAL HERPES FREE AND IM HAPPY TO SAY IT BECAUSE I BELIEVE IN GOOD AND I KNOW WHAT HE CAN DO..GOD TAKES YOU THROUGH ***l TO GET YOU TO HEAVEN!!!! GOD GIVES YOU THINGS SO THAT YOU KNOW HE IS THERE....HE TAKES THEM AWAY SO YOU WONT FORGET THAT HE"S HERE.. GOD HAS GIVEN ME A CLEAN SLATE!!!!

if it wasnt for God, my family and friends i wouldnt have been able to get through this...so have faith and put your sickness,anger,frustration, pain, and hurt into his hand because he can and will bring you through....

I have decide to become celibate for awhile until i get into a serious relationship where sex is not a big deal..love is the answer..

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  • I am glad you are not having any more outbreaks but please be aware that just because you aren't, doesn't mean you don't still have the virus and that you can still pass it on.Herpes is transmitted via skin to skin contact - anything from dry humping, oral sex to intercourse. Herpes I is most commonly found on the mouth - however, it isn't limited to the mouth - any mucus membrane will do. You really need to go to a different doctor and get retested and reexamined. There seems to be too much confusion over your status. And you might want to bring your mother or sister with you - so as explanations are being given, there is someone who isn't so emotional to hear and understand them.
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  • thanks four your comment...i've decide to go back but i kno its negative and when it is im putting it all behind me...:)
    pooh38635 15 Replies Flag this Response
  • I am glad you are not having any more outbreaks but please be aware that just because you aren't, doesn't mean you don't still have the virus and that you can still pass it on.Herpes is transmitted via skin to skin contact - anything from dry humping, oral sex to intercourse. Herpes I is most commonly found on the mouth - however, it isn't limited to the mouth - any mucus membrane will do. You really need to go to a different doctor and get retested and reexamined. There seems to be too much confusion over your status. And you might want to bring your mother or sister with you - so as explanations are being given, there is someone who isn't so emotional to hear and understand them.i think you misunderstood i really never just had an outbreak as one would say..i always had discomfort down there way before i ever engaged in sex i lost my virginity this year....yea i going back to receive my negative results cause i know thats what its gonna say...:)
    pooh38635 15 Replies Flag this Response
  • Wow..I have been reading all of your posts, and I am in awe. Can I ask a few questions?First have you gotten a second opinion yet?What did you mean in one of your posts when you said your "sister has been suffering for years"? Does she have the same problem?I have a million more, but those are paramount in my mind...I hope you are well and look forward to a reply.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • December 8, 2008
    • 04:47 AM
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  • i just read your post and i have recently been thru something very similiar i went to my doctor and during the exam she said she was going to test me for std's i refused saying there was no need i have been married for over 25 years and never fooled around. the test came back two weeks later and when she told me i freaked i didnt think to ask to be tested by someone else at this point i have lost all respect for her and other doctors in this area. my husband went to the same office three weeks later to be tested and not only did the doctor not test him he grabbed my records saying it was stupid to test him and looked at my records and gave him medication saving his name from being put on lists this has really upset me and we are still not talking im thinking about divorce but since he is protected there isnt a way of proving anything. i talked to a person over this center and he practically accused my husband of fooling around although he said he couldnt prove it he said the lab doesnt make mistakes well they do all the time and i have been in a mistake before of mistaken identity.
    smkbrad 3 Replies
    • December 27, 2008
    • 03:51 PM
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  • smkbrad:Well, so why don't you go get tested somewhere else if you don't believe a doctor. The doctor has no emotional attachment to your situation and to make it her/his fault is really immature on both you and your husband's part. Sounds like your husband is hiding something. You can go to your local STD county clinic for free or Planned Parenthood, which is where you need to go to get both confirmation of the diagnosis and unbiased counseling.
    Monsterlove 2921 Replies
    • December 28, 2008
    • 06:30 AM
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  • im just saying the doctor should have not tested me to begin with when i first ask her not to and second there was no reason for her too. plus when my husband went back to be tested that is what they should have done instead of getting my records that shouldnt have had anything to do with it. i believe that as a patient i have rights and they should have been respected, and no i dont think i am being immature in any way shape or form anyone else in my shoes would have felt the same way.
    smkbrad 3 Replies
    • December 28, 2008
    • 06:59 AM
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  • I think when a doctor wants to run a test, a logical response would be "why"--did she see a discharge, etc. I think, when you get your pap, that it is standard to do a screening. So what were your results???
    Monsterlove 2921 Replies
    • December 29, 2008
    • 06:08 AM
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  • she didnt give any explaination but when she stated she was testing for std's i told her no and there was no reason to 1. i havent been unfaithful and 2. i was having no symptoms. the test came back positive for gonorrhea and clymedia, and i dont care what anyone says no lab is perfect and they make mistakes all the time.they should at least treat married people with the same respect as a single person who walked in off the street to get tested, my husband didnt get any respect they said it was stupid and a waste of time.
    smkbrad 3 Replies
    • December 29, 2008
    • 11:57 PM
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  • You could go to another clinic, like the free county STD clinic or Planned Parenthood and get re-tested; did you make your husband get screened??? I know you keep saying there wasn't any reason, but those diseases can make you sterile. Maybe you've had it since before you were married and have very little symptoms.
    Monsterlove 2921 Replies
    • December 31, 2008
    • 06:05 AM
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