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Public eating

Posted In: Anxiety 7 Replies
  • Posted By: skippy
  • June 5, 2008
  • 03:25 AM

Hi there

I came across this site by chance and it seems very useful and informative.

I am a 25 year old male who love's socialising, sports and doing the regular things people do such as partying. But i have one big problem! I can't eat in public. This might sound very strange for someone who likes socialising, but i never socialise in restaurants or cafe's.
I basically can not eat indoors or amongst people because i then feel like puking or sometimes just uneasy, along with this the thought that people can see this strange behaviour in me while eating which i ain't sure if they can or wether it's just my crazy thinking.

What happens is that the food i swallow causes a big burp to develop but i have difficulties releasing this burp and it feels im going to explode if i swallow anything else becasue more burps are stored in my stomach which promts me to leave the table with my plate hardly finished. What is strange is that it get's worse when there's women around. I know it sounds crazy but please i am perfectly honest.

This has has been going on for nearly 1 and a half years and it's having a major impact on my life, finanance and friendship. I just wan't to be normal again and enjoy my meal and relax but i freak out.

I have heard there's hypnosis but i think it's very expensive and i am not well off. Is this called Nausea, my condition? If so can i be cured with pills or do i need to go to an expert and have chat sessions. Honestly anything will do, i just wan't to get on with my life.

I appreciate your responses.

/Skippy

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  • Are you by chance self consious about your weight? Have you ever dealt with an eating disorder?
    chromegirl666 101 Replies Flag this Response
  • I used to be unable to eat around other people. I thought it was just some sort of instinct, that someone might steal my food, because I was the runt of the litter, and there was always going to be a lot of bigger dogs around.I never once had anyone try to take any food from me, that not a reasonable threat. Just something odd.Doesn't meant you are self conscious. There are other reasons, and perhaps no decent reason at all.
    Wolf Dreamer 20 Replies Flag this Response
  • I personally dont think it has anything to do with cell phones, you may have some kind of stomach disorder, and if not then you probably just need to stop worrying about it so much
    MetricMom 13 Replies
    • August 26, 2008
    • 04:22 PM
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  • my name is jennifer. skippy i just wanted to reply to your message because i am exactly the same way! i thought that i was alone in this. i have never heard of this website, nor have i intended to join. but i know now that i was supposed to. im actually about to cry right now because i love to get out the house. if i dont get out and have fun or socialize i get aggravated. but god forbid its somewhere like a restaurant or cafe like you said. i can not have any one looking at me while im eating. i fell disgusted!!! disgusted beyond belief. its like my throat gets swollen and its hard to swallow. i could never talk about this with anyone not my parents not my boyfriend not my close friends no one!! i get light headed when someone looks at me when im eating. i feel sick like i have to gag or throw up. its so unbearable you know? because there's people around you that actually care about you and want to know what the heck is bothering you, but all you can say is you're just not hungry. i eat and i eat alone or in front of my son who is only 2. but i have a live-in boyfriend.... when we eat together its so hard. he occasionally looks up at me while we're eating and it makes me want to throw my food away! i tell him not to look at me but he doesnt understand, nor does he try to. he thinks im just being cute or shy or whatever the heck he thinks. i hope that you reply to me and keep me posted i really need a friend in this!
    distressed27 3 Replies
    • September 8, 2008
    • 09:20 PM
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  • my name is jennifer. skippy i just wanted to reply to your message because i am exactly the same way! i thought that i was alone in this. i have never heard of this website, nor have i intended to join. but i know now that i was supposed to. im actually about to cry right now because i love to get out the house. if i dont get out and have fun or socialize i get aggravated. but god forbid its somewhere like a restaurant or cafe like you said. i can not have any one looking at me while im eating. i fell disgusted!!! disgusted beyond belief. its like my throat gets swollen and its hard to swallow. i could never talk about this with anyone not my parents not my boyfriend not my close friends no one!! i get light headed when someone looks at me when im eating. i feel sick like i have to gag or throw up. its so unbearable you know? because there's people around you that actually care about you and want to know what the heck is bothering you, but all you can say is you're just not hungry. i eat and i eat alone or in front of my son who is only 2. but i have a live-in boyfriend.... when we eat together its so hard. he occasionally looks up at me while we're eating and it makes me want to throw my food away! i tell him not to look at me but he doesnt understand, nor does he try to. he thinks im just being cute or shy or whatever the heck he thinks. i hope that you reply to me and keep me posted i really need a friend in this!
    distressed27 3 Replies
    • September 8, 2008
    • 09:22 PM
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  • Hey Jennifer and Skippy. Ive got that same problem too. Im 30 and I live in Hawaii but i get that uneasy feeling when I have to eat at a restaurant or public places. It feels like my mouth has no saliva and I cant swallow my food well. Sometimes I have to eat in really small portions but my friends are like, "why'd you have to cut that in half" or "you take too long". Whenever someone invites me to go eat, Im kinda terrified. This feeling is intense when you are at a really crowded place. I tried to go out and eat by myself like yesterday but i had that strange anxiety feeling. Felt like I was gonna throw up but burped couple times instead. I ended up not finishing my potatoes on the side. Its so odd cause I can eat at home or at work in front of people but its just that eating in public makes me nervous as ***l. Also, I notice sometimes Im fine. Like if it is a restaurant or place ive eaten couple times or if its a place where I can imagine myself there. I worry if I get a girlfriend in the future cause Im sure I would have to take her out to eat at restaurants. This feeling started back in 2005. Its not like I can go eat out everyday to practice cause food is quite pricey here in Hawaii and you gotta save money here to survive. Sometimes I wonder what happens if you do throw up. Will that get it over with it? Im not sure if you guys have this feelng every single time. Mine, is on and off. It started in 2005 and got better in the end of 2006. 2007 was fine and its starting again in 2008 september. Before all this, I was fine. I used to eat out everytime with friends and alone but not sure where it went all wrong..I wonder if we should not eat in public for the rest of our lives? I really dont want to run from this problem but its a real mystery.They do have medication for anxiety/nausea (XANAX) which i took before back in 2005 but its not really worth it. I took it for 3 weeks and it seems like it takes away that nervous feeling but I didnt want to be dependent on medication over this type of problem.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • October 10, 2008
    • 04:30 PM
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  • I'm the same came you guys let me know what you did for I have a friends birthday coming up and anxiety is setting in about me not being able to eat which then brings on my blushing..
    HEEELLLPPPP
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